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There’s a moment at the end of every day, where the world falls away and you are left alone with your thoughts. A reckoning, when the things you have been pushing to the background, come forward and demand your attention. Written by Daniel Howell, in conjunction with a qualified psychologist, in an entertaining and personal way from the perspective of someone who has been t There’s a moment at the end of every day, where the world falls away and you are left alone with your thoughts. A reckoning, when the things you have been pushing to the background, come forward and demand your attention. Written by Daniel Howell, in conjunction with a qualified psychologist, in an entertaining and personal way from the perspective of someone who has been through it all—this no-nonsense book gives you the tools to understand your mind so you can be in control and really live. Split into three chapters for each stage of the journey: This Night - how to get through your toughest moments and be prepared to face anything. Tomorrow - small steps to change your thoughts and actions with a big impact on your life. The Days After - help to look after yourself in the long term and not just survive, but thrive. You will laugh and learn—but most of all, this book will assure you that even in your darkest times, there is always hope.  You will get through this night.


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There’s a moment at the end of every day, where the world falls away and you are left alone with your thoughts. A reckoning, when the things you have been pushing to the background, come forward and demand your attention. Written by Daniel Howell, in conjunction with a qualified psychologist, in an entertaining and personal way from the perspective of someone who has been t There’s a moment at the end of every day, where the world falls away and you are left alone with your thoughts. A reckoning, when the things you have been pushing to the background, come forward and demand your attention. Written by Daniel Howell, in conjunction with a qualified psychologist, in an entertaining and personal way from the perspective of someone who has been through it all—this no-nonsense book gives you the tools to understand your mind so you can be in control and really live. Split into three chapters for each stage of the journey: This Night - how to get through your toughest moments and be prepared to face anything. Tomorrow - small steps to change your thoughts and actions with a big impact on your life. The Days After - help to look after yourself in the long term and not just survive, but thrive. You will laugh and learn—but most of all, this book will assure you that even in your darkest times, there is always hope.  You will get through this night.

30 review for You Will Get Through This Night

  1. 5 out of 5

    Daye

    for you, Dan, I will pick up my first nonfiction book after more than 5 years

  2. 4 out of 5

    Sarah

    You Will Get Through This Night was the most anticipated new book of the year so far for me and it most certainly did not disappoint. As a fan of Daniel Howell for at least a decade now, his YouTube videos used to help me a lot to process my feelings, there was a lot of relatability. I would be thinking as I watched that this is a person who feels similarly to me. This was all confirmed years later with the video entitled "Daniel And Depression." So when it was announced that Dan would be releasin You Will Get Through This Night was the most anticipated new book of the year so far for me and it most certainly did not disappoint. As a fan of Daniel Howell for at least a decade now, his YouTube videos used to help me a lot to process my feelings, there was a lot of relatability. I would be thinking as I watched that this is a person who feels similarly to me. This was all confirmed years later with the video entitled "Daniel And Depression." So when it was announced that Dan would be releasing a book covering the subject of mental health, I knew I had to preorder it right away. Being completely open and raw with people has always been a fear of Dan’s. Even though his videos were relatable for those of us who were struggling, some of his true thoughts and feelings would always be hidden behind an armour of humour. So I am immensely proud that he was able to be so within these pages. There is bravery in being vulnerable, especially in such a public way. You Will Get Through This Night is split into three parts. - Part 1: This Night: Here, advice on how to overcome overwhelming worries and anxieties is covered. To help to you find ways through negative moments and ground yourself, to help you feel more safe. It is very easy to become stuck inside our own minds with overthinking, and you can’t just snap out of these habits or unlearn them completely overnight. But these tips and hints will hopefully help you get through, one night at a time. - Part 2: Tomorrow: This part is for when you are feeling more able to make changes in your life. It goes through the areas of life that directly have an impact on our mental health and to help manage these. - Part 3: The Days After That: This is all about addressing what’s going on inside your mind to make you feel certain ways. It’ll help you identify toxic thinking patterns, help you to deal with your emotions, detect sources of emotional distress, and ways to help adjust your mindset to deal with challenges that life throws at you. Dan explains that you don’t have to read this in chronological order, but I chose to, and then will go back to the excerpts and exercises that I know will help me the most in times of need. The contents was fact-checked in consultation with a clinical psychologist - Dr Heather Bolton. There is no "one-size-fits-all" method to help with mental health struggles, as everybody is different, and This Night consists of tried and tested methods from different types of therapies (that may not work for everybody). But it is up to the individual to try and see what works for them, when they feel ready. This book may open your mind to new methods you may not have heard of before. A single book won’t change your life, only give you some stepping stones and guidance along the way. The section entitled "Digital Detox" confirmed to me all my thoughts about social media having a negative impact on my mental health. Being too fixated on a virtual world can actually impact your real life and I had already started making some positive changes a while ago in that respect. Dan’s writing style is very personable. The way all the information is presented is different to other "self help" style books currently available. My only wish is that something like this had been available when I was a teenager. There may not be any groundbreaking, new revelations made in This Night, but I know it will be a great starting point for so many younger people especially. It is lovely to think of how many people it may help.

  3. 4 out of 5

    rachel ☾

    so i'm officially done with 2020, can we just fast forward to may 2021 & call it a day? Blog • Trigger Warning Database • Twitter • Instagram so i'm officially done with 2020, can we just fast forward to may 2021 & call it a day? Blog • Trigger Warning Database • Twitter • Instagram

  4. 4 out of 5

    Raina H.

    .Note: This review may spoil some of the book’s contents. The page numbers referenced are for the U.S. 1st Edition Hardcover. So... this review is pretty much a book in itself. Before I start, I want to mention I have been following Dan's online presence fairly consistently since 2017, but I am reviewing this book objectively as a person who reads books (rather than a fan looking to provide unconditional support). Even though I was rather pessimistic about the idea of a Youtuber mental health boo .Note: This review may spoil some of the book’s contents. The page numbers referenced are for the U.S. 1st Edition Hardcover. So... this review is pretty much a book in itself. Before I start, I want to mention I have been following Dan's online presence fairly consistently since 2017, but I am reviewing this book objectively as a person who reads books (rather than a fan looking to provide unconditional support). Even though I was rather pessimistic about the idea of a Youtuber mental health book, I made sure to go in with a completely open mind. Because it's clear he wishes for this to be regarded as a separate, more serious, project from his online career, I won't be treating Dan’s book as a "Youtuber book". Rather, I will compliment and criticize it as I would any regular text. My first comment is a negative one about the first page titled "KEEP SAFE" which gave a police station as an example of a safe place to go if you are experiencing a serious mental health crisis. I think this is not only poor advice, but wildly tone-deaf to write when we are witnessing video footage each and every day proving that this is not the case for most people. Too many people who turned to the police during their lowest points are now dead. It's not dramatic or stretching to say that citing police stations as safe places for people experiencing a crisis could be life-ending advice being that police in most countries have little to no training in handling mental health crises, yet extensive training in combat. The book is littered with (IN MY OPINION!) outdated attempts at relatability, but amongst the cheugy millennial humor there are sentiments, anecdotes, and examples for the mh activities that I found funny. Is it immature to point and laugh at a 13 year old accidentally touching a boob? Probably yeah, but it keeps you engaged! I think Dan succeeded in his effort to involve his core demographic in a book that offers practical mental health advice. "I know unlimited internet is necessary for my lifestyle, but I reserve the right to complain about how expensive it is." I don't think this attempt at financial relatability was needed. Two world tours, tens of thousands of pieces of merch and books sold, a big custom-built house in London... I'm sure you can afford your internet cost. It's a personal pet peeve of mine to see rich or upper-middle class influencers complain about money in an attempt to be relatable to the working class. Like, while I'm sure you came from a lower-middle class family, you're well off now or at least much better off than at least 95% of people in the world. I found Part 2 “TOMORROW” very useful, as I was introduced to the concept of “mood congruence” on page 113! Because of the advice in this book, I also will be writing down my tasks and choices, both mundane and major, and seeing which ones correlate to my mood. Sometimes, I feel like my mental health and motivation does its own thing but realistically I know it probably corresponds to what I do throughout my day on a stronger level than I give it credit for. Is it possible science will destroy my procrastinating tendencies?! An initial thought I had when I first learned Dan Howell was releasing a mental health book was, “Why Dan? How are you qualified whatsoever to give me mental health advice?” And when I learned everything was proofread by a licensed psychologist the question still remained, “Why DAN? Why couldn’t a psychologist have written the whole thing? Surely someone who’s studied mental health for forty years would give better advice than someone with no mental health training! But then it occurred to me, THAT BOOK ALREADY EXISTS. Probably thousands of books by fancy psychology people exist. And yet, the one I picked up and read was this one. Why? Because none of the other books would bonk me to horny jail, openly resent babies and the simplicity of which they live their lives, or refer to the urethra as “that convenient hole.” I still think the psychologist could’ve had a hand in writing it to the point they would’ve been considered a proper co-author. In what I think is the ideal scenario, the psychologist would’ve supplied the extensive knowledge about mental health topics and Dan’s part would be making the humorous, well-formatted book that’s consumable to the average young person. A middle ground would’ve been best here in my opinion as we could’ve avoided vague phrases like “one study showed” on page 169. I get the goal was to make it accessible but surely there’s a line somewhere!! But like I said, I’ve never read “Reducing Cortisol and Improving Cognition By Albert E. Harvard PHD³”... I read the Daniel Howell Mental Health Guide. So the fact I’m reading this and being reminded of/learning new things that I wouldn’t have otherwise counts for a lot. Also, I believe the author in question’s creative control issues were brought up in the book so maybe a collaboration-heavy project wasn’t in the cards. All in all, much better that this book exists and all these people benefit from this advice than it never having been written. I noticed a contradiction in the advice. The book first states: “...food is not a bargaining chip, it is essential for us to stay alive. If we feel bad and our minds tell us we don’t deserve to eat, or have food we enjoy, we are sabotaging ourselves emotionally and physically. Try to be aware of how you view food as a punishment or prize and recognize instead that it’s essential fuel that you always deserve.” (154) However, only twenty pages later it gives the post-workout recommendation: “Treat yourself-- give yourself a carrot on a stick… have something to look forward to afterwards. Whether that’s a decadent bath, a snack, or permission to partake in some trashy entertainment. You’ve earned it.” (177) This, obviously paints the food you enjoy as a reward to be had after doing something straining, or in other words, a bargaining chip. Genuinely believe the author did not mean for it to be interpreted that way and if he could go back might add something along the lines of “Which isn’t to say you don’t deserve a snack or self care bath regardless of all the exercise you did!” Don’t worry, I’ve already added the mental revision. “Changing Your Mind” on 221 is incredibly important if you feel powerless about your depression or other mental health issues. For many years I felt that my depression controlled me and that I was just built differently from all these successful people. That I’d never be able to function as a normal member of society. Now, I work a full-time job that I am passionate about which is more than I EVER thought possible for me. I also resonated deeply with the “All-Or-Nothing Thinking” segment on 225. I still struggle with this every day. In school if I didn’t think I could get straight-A’s in a certain class I would not attend school, ignore all the classwork, and ultimately spiral until I think I’m an incurable failure. Finally, “Attitude of Gratitude” starting on 310 made me realize something fundamentally self-sabotaging about the way I view the world. Almost everything around me is covered in blood, this is a fact. The apartment I live in was built by someone who was paid in pocket change. The avocado I’m eating was picked by a child who is getting no education. That meat patty used thousands of gallons of water and put CO2 in the air at gross rates. The land I’m on was brutally colonized yet the local indigenous community isn’t provided with quality living standards. And when I know these things, I’m consumed with anger. Anger that drives me to fight for fairer policy and as a consumer, live as ethically and sustainably as I can in such a cruel society. However, not often do I take the time to set aside that anger for a moment to be grateful that I am where I am. This section made me consider that apart from literally fighting for better policy, perhaps the best thing someone in a privileged position can do is to at least be grateful for the things others wish that they had. Overall I still think that because it was written by a non-professional, it doesn't offer anything incredibly profound but I personally benefited from it because I usually ignore my mental health and this forced me to actually think about it, even on just a basic level. To finish it off on a positive note, here were my favorite quotes: - "In mental health, there are no miracle cures that work for everyone." (26) - "You may be the product of what made you, but you have the power to change and grow and make yourself feel better." (39) - “Humans are just really complicated plants.” (121) - “Try not to expect too much from other people -- remember they’re human and they won’t be able to read your mind or come up with magic solutions, so you might need to spell out what’s wrong, and even tell them what you need from them.” (213) - “I won’t lie, when I first saw a therapist I was disappointed. Not with the experience-- that was profound and arguably life changing; I mean the room. I was not sitting in some grand library study, reclining on a chaise lounge while a man with a floor-length beard hummed every time I spoke.” (261) - “Despite our best efforts and intentions, it’s normal to have ups and downs. Remember that mental health is not a straight line, we can do what we can to raise the floor level, but it will always wave with the happenings of the world.” (287) P.S. Doubt anyone actually read all this, but if you did thanks for listening. Also, if the criticisms in this book made you mad or sad I recommend rereading Mental Filtering on page 227, which discusses looking at the big picture and not focusing on one perspective. Also know that if I didn’t like the book at all, I wouldn’t have finished it and this review wouldn’t be so damn long! Bye now.

  5. 4 out of 5

    Ashton

    3.5 — not surprised at all, but still kinda disappointing personally. i think one of the largest public conversations surrounding mental health should be how oppressive systems and capitalism absolutely destroy it, and this book only brushed over that pretty lightly. i do think a lot of the advice the book offered was valuable — nothing was new to me, but a lot was stuff i’ve learned in classes or given as advice myself before. it’s not a bad book! just relatively basic and not what i personally 3.5 — not surprised at all, but still kinda disappointing personally. i think one of the largest public conversations surrounding mental health should be how oppressive systems and capitalism absolutely destroy it, and this book only brushed over that pretty lightly. i do think a lot of the advice the book offered was valuable — nothing was new to me, but a lot was stuff i’ve learned in classes or given as advice myself before. it’s not a bad book! just relatively basic and not what i personally want out of a mental health guide. i wish it’d been less individual-focused, i guess? just not for me. also i think it needs more editing lmao there were some truly unclear sentences

  6. 4 out of 5

    Sandy

    Amazing, astonishing and absolutely necessary for the world we live in. Daniel Howell tackles mental health with humour, vigor and an overwhelming sense of connectedness. We are not alone. Keep this book on your nightstand. Carry it in your bag. It is the guide we all need to understand our own brains and the journey they take us on. I will be going back to it for advice and comfort. Thank you Dan

  7. 4 out of 5

    Beth Turello

    I absolutely cannot wait for this book! So proud of Dan for opening up about a topic that is too often considered taboo. It’s the book I know a lot of people will benefit from, including myself. Only 8 months to go ❤️

  8. 5 out of 5

    Nev

    3.5 - I was a bit hesitant to read this book even though I’ve been a fan of Dan’s for over a decade at this point. If it was a memoir I would’ve been all in immediately, but being a “practical mental health guide” didn’t totally appeal to me. Self-help or instructional type non-fiction isn’t what I typically gravitate towards. I did mostly enjoy reading this. The personal moments he shared or jokes stood out to me as the strongest parts. But a lot of the advice seemed kinda trite and just rehash 3.5 - I was a bit hesitant to read this book even though I’ve been a fan of Dan’s for over a decade at this point. If it was a memoir I would’ve been all in immediately, but being a “practical mental health guide” didn’t totally appeal to me. Self-help or instructional type non-fiction isn’t what I typically gravitate towards. I did mostly enjoy reading this. The personal moments he shared or jokes stood out to me as the strongest parts. But a lot of the advice seemed kinda trite and just rehashing things that are commonly said. When he related the advice to his own experiences then I didn’t mind so much that they didn’t feel like groundbreaking suggestions. I did appreciate that the tone never got super cheesy or tried to come across like this one book can solve all your problems. That sort of thing is what makes me want to steer clear of self-help as a genre. I’m not sure how much this will appeal to people who aren’t already a fan of Dan.

  9. 5 out of 5

    Iselin

    Dan is a really good writer. He keeps it interesting, his language flows well, and he's funny. I snorted out loud loads of times, but that might also be because we have the same sense of humor. As someone who has spent the past year studying psychology (both in college and on my own time as I am a nerd,) I knew a lot of this from before. Most of it, even. Some of it I'd even say is pretty basic knowledge nowadays. Even so, it was nice to be reminded of the things I know, but don't always practic Dan is a really good writer. He keeps it interesting, his language flows well, and he's funny. I snorted out loud loads of times, but that might also be because we have the same sense of humor. As someone who has spent the past year studying psychology (both in college and on my own time as I am a nerd,) I knew a lot of this from before. Most of it, even. Some of it I'd even say is pretty basic knowledge nowadays. Even so, it was nice to be reminded of the things I know, but don't always practice. I've followed Dan's journey since around 2013 and I'm so proud to see how far he's come. The first time I watched Daniel and Depression I felt understood - and upon reading this book, I feel understood again. Relateable Dan-quotes incoming: "I live by the phrase 'if you want something done right, do it yourself,' and I also die by it, as it's exhausting and makes me resentful." "Nothing personally gets me moving like guilt and shame." "I feel free and open, like a mental-health trenchcoat flasher." Besides being hillarious, this book is also full of genuinely good tips that could better one's mental health. If I'm being honest I won't take a lot of them to heart (I know I drink too much caffeine and overthink and dwell on things and catastrophize, I don't care too much) but I will definitely keep some of it in mind. On another note, I love Dan. I don't know Dan, but I appreciate his extistence. More self-help books written by depressives, please. I'm so tired of listening to some neurotypical with a fancy degree telling me how to achieve inner peace. I just want a fellow, flawed human being with some insights and knowledge who has done research and consulted someone. This writing-partnership between a therapist and someone who struggles himself really made for a good reading experience, and I must say I recommend.

  10. 5 out of 5

    lillian

    Last night I sat down and read this book in just under four hours. I was able to get it a week early, which I am extremely grateful for, and I have many thoughts. This is a rewrite of a previous review I made, with many more critiques. My main criticism of You Will Get Through This Night is the way it has been marketed. Despite Dan’s claims that it’s not a self-help book, he’s been advertising it as “therapy session.” (This is literally what he has said on Twitter.) Mental health is not one size Last night I sat down and read this book in just under four hours. I was able to get it a week early, which I am extremely grateful for, and I have many thoughts. This is a rewrite of a previous review I made, with many more critiques. My main criticism of You Will Get Through This Night is the way it has been marketed. Despite Dan’s claims that it’s not a self-help book, he’s been advertising it as “therapy session.” (This is literally what he has said on Twitter.) Mental health is not one size fits all and it’s disingenuous to market it as such. For example, he talks about breathing exercises, which is great, but there are many people who not only do breathing exercises not work for but for whom breathing can trigger an even worse meltdown because of sensory issues. He is obviously talking about mental health from an extremely privileged perspective which just means that he’s alienating most of his audience. Not all of us can do everything he says, or even most of it. He stresses the importance of a calming living space, taking time for self care, and getting therapy, but for the average person anywhere in the world getting even one of those things is close to impossible. How are you supposed to tell people living paycheck to paycheck, or teenagers in abusive homes, or those who have a responsibility to care for their family, that they should be prioritizing themselves? For me, specifically, it mostly just makes me feel like shit, like it’s somehow my fault for not having access to all those resources and that I’m not trying hard enough. The self-help industry is very well known for preying on innocent and vulnerable people, and as much as I hate to say it, I think a lot of us ignore the fact that Dan is, at the end of the day, a wealthy white British male capitalist. The history of psychology and psychiatry is complicated and I’m not an expert, but it is extremely unarguably very exclusionary. I think (and many more people have said) that this comes down to the fact that much of its origins are rooted in eugenics. It’s extremely hard in most places for people of color, neurodivergent people, disabled people, poor people, and other groups to get the proper care they need. Even with those who do end up getting care many are abused by the systems that are supposed to help them. Additionally, mental health isn’t as simple as just having one disorder. Most people who have at least one mental health problem have a whole lot more and those work together to create unique problems. I disagree that Dan should have written a memoir, because he clearly feels uncomfortable doing so, which is well within his right. That being said, I probably would have found a memoir much more compelling. I find the fact that he wants to be a mental health advocate admirable but I just wish he didn’t act like he’s a therapist. The era of Dan’s mental health advocacy that worked the best was immediately after Daniel and Depression because he was sharing his own unique experience while recognizing that it wasn’t universal. I’m not trying to act like I’m better than Dan; I can’t even say what I would have done differently about YWGTTN because I wouldn’t have written it in the first place, it’s just not something that I have the skills to write. (I mean, the question is, does Dan have the skills to write it either? Who knows.) Someone who I think talks about mental health in a good way is John Green, because he’s made many videos talking about his OCD. He also wrote a book about it, but it was a fictional book with a main character who had OCD. It just seems a bit strange to be charging someone for unqualified advice just because you’re a well-known public figure. While he did partner with a psychologist, we don’t know the extent to which she contributed and there are many more sides to mental health that you can’t learn without studying it for years. This is all strange, but not at all unprecedented.

  11. 4 out of 5

    Amanda

    I just got this book yesterday morning and I've been up all night reading it and even re-reading some of my favourite parts. It's truly incredible. Funny, upsetting, charming and more helpful that I ever expected. I got this book because I've been a fan of Daniel for about 10 years and I wanted to learn more about him, which I definitely did, but when I finished the book I had also learned a lot about myself. This book really has something for everyone. It doesn't matter if you've been a follower I just got this book yesterday morning and I've been up all night reading it and even re-reading some of my favourite parts. It's truly incredible. Funny, upsetting, charming and more helpful that I ever expected. I got this book because I've been a fan of Daniel for about 10 years and I wanted to learn more about him, which I definitely did, but when I finished the book I had also learned a lot about myself. This book really has something for everyone. It doesn't matter if you've been a follower of Dan for years or if you've never heard of him in your life. It doesn't matter if you are the pinnacle of mental health or if you've struggled with depression for over 20 years, like I have. Regardless of who you are I believe that you will be entertained and and get some helpful advice and tips to apply to your own life. Now if you'll excuse me, I'd like to go and re-read this book again.

  12. 4 out of 5

    Star

    Thank you to Harper Collins Australia for providing me with a finished copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. This has no way impacted my thoughts. I love this book. My review is going live on my blog tonight. It's a long one (1k words long omg). https://littlemissstar55.wordpress.com/ Thank you to Harper Collins Australia for providing me with a finished copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. This has no way impacted my thoughts. I love this book. My review is going live on my blog tonight. It's a long one (1k words long omg). https://littlemissstar55.wordpress.com/

  13. 4 out of 5

    Sleepless Dreamer

    You Will Get Through This Night is Dan's first serious book. It discusses mental health and is packed with practical advice. There are three parts which are aimed towards tips for hard nights, the morning after, and the long term. I still have an inherent disdain for YouTuber books but I was excited to read this nonetheless. On one hand, it's clear that Dan has been through so much growth. This book marks a huge change for him. It's hard not to be happy for him that he's gotten to the point of u You Will Get Through This Night is Dan's first serious book. It discusses mental health and is packed with practical advice. There are three parts which are aimed towards tips for hard nights, the morning after, and the long term. I still have an inherent disdain for YouTuber books but I was excited to read this nonetheless. On one hand, it's clear that Dan has been through so much growth. This book marks a huge change for him. It's hard not to be happy for him that he's gotten to the point of using his platform for Pride and mental health. For those of us who have been following for a while (just checked- 2012 for me, damn), I'd even go as far as to suggest it's inspirational to see. That said, if I didn't know Daniel Howell wrote this, my review would have been pretty harsh. When I read self-help books, I often look for compassion and personal insight, rather than advice. I mean, we all know that exercise and meditation are good for mental health. I want to learn from others and understand more about my own human experience. Weirdly, this book feels outdated. People around my age group make up most of Dan's followers and well, I feel remarkably grateful that the importance of mental health is an established topic already in our age group (see: Simone Biles). I recognize that this is new and exciting for Dan but I suspect that it isn't for a lot of his audience. None of the advice is really new and it isn't presented in any new light. Dan is fantastically charismatic and delightful to listen to. I watched Gay And Not Proud a few weeks ago and remembered why he has such a following. However, in writing, his humor doesn't quite translate. It came across as very serious and the lighter comments fell flat. I suppose being funny in writing is a different skill but the writing didn't sound like him. As an experienced veteran of mental health issues (ayy, watch me pretend to be a functional adult in between mental health crises), I felt like it was clear that Dan wanted to help but I can't say this book was helpful. Moreover, my mental health was an actual mess a few weeks ago and reading this book made me feel worse- it felt patronizing and childish, like yes, I am very well aware that my emotions are a wreck and that ignoring my friends isn't a good idea. If I could actually stop behaving this way, yes, it would be great. I don't want to be too critical. Dan means very well. This book just doesn't really do much for me. I had hoped it would be more personal and less focused on basic advice. I hope others have better experiences with this book. What I'm Taking With Me - While reading this, I realized how YouTube is fascinating because I very much grew up with Dan. As he was talking about various landmarks of his life, I remembered where I was when he did those things. I remember how YouTube used to feel like a tiny little community, where there was an opportunity to hang out, how YouTube wasn't yet a profession and it legitimately just felt like friends just hanging out online together. - Also still not over that I started watching Dan in 2012, like dear god, have I spent so many years online? - I did enjoy the reminder that mental health is like physical health- you always need to keep an eye out. I've been struggling this semester to balance it all so I hope next semester I'll make better decisions. ------------------------------ Man, Dan's personal growth is making me feel bad, like what even is this Review to come!

  14. 4 out of 5

    the bard

    review: i'd like to preface with the fact that i've been a fan of dan's since around 5th grade. his videos on depression and coming out have been really personal to me, and they've helped me quite a lot. basically, i'm indifferent. or just a bit conflicted. ignoring that this book was riddled with typos, comma splices, and the occasional grammatical error (please, o great dan, hire me to edit your book), it isn't bad. it's actually pretty good, dare i say it. the psychological information is incr review: i'd like to preface with the fact that i've been a fan of dan's since around 5th grade. his videos on depression and coming out have been really personal to me, and they've helped me quite a lot. basically, i'm indifferent. or just a bit conflicted. ignoring that this book was riddled with typos, comma splices, and the occasional grammatical error (please, o great dan, hire me to edit your book), it isn't bad. it's actually pretty good, dare i say it. the psychological information is incredibly valuable, and it had me taking notes. granted, a lot of the exercises i had heard before, but many i hadn't. i can see this book helping many who are in a bad state of mind and, honestly, that's enough to justify it. if this book helps one person, then it has done its job. another thing about this book is that it's definitely written by dan. his humor finds its ways to shine through, as do his anecdotes and wit. at times, it can be a bit too ~quirky~ (sometimes throwing me back to 2016), but it doesn't interfere too much with the information at hand. if you love dan and his youtube videos, chances are, you'll love this. he's an expert on lightening the mood with humor, which is what a book on mental health struggles needs. what all of this comes down to is that, sure, this book was fairly enjoyable to read; it's just a bit too basic. it can definitely save people, which is its purpose, so i'll give it that, but it's just too repetitive and fundamental. and, again, please hire me as an editor, because this book needs it. read this book if you want to. it's not bad, but it's not show-stoppingly spectacular. * * * prereview: my mental health has been in the absolute GUTTER lately because of work, school, extracurriculars, and piano competitions, so when i got an email saying this was finally released, i nearly screamed out of happiness. this is what i need right now.

  15. 5 out of 5

    Anna

    Rating: 5/5 ==== I don't normally read books written by YouTubers, but Dan has been one of my favorite YouTubers for ages, so I'm really looking forward to reading this. Rating: 5/5 ==== I don't normally read books written by YouTubers, but Dan has been one of my favorite YouTubers for ages, so I'm really looking forward to reading this.

  16. 4 out of 5

    catherine ♡

    I've been following Dan on YouTube for many years now and I knew that any book written by him would be witty and funny and this was no different. The writing definitely has Dan's spiciness to it and I love the references and inside jokes he makes to Norman, the panic alarm, etc. As a mental health guide itself, however, I do feel like the book doesn't say much that we probably haven't already heard about mental health. I know it's not that kind of book but I do wish it was a little bit more anecd I've been following Dan on YouTube for many years now and I knew that any book written by him would be witty and funny and this was no different. The writing definitely has Dan's spiciness to it and I love the references and inside jokes he makes to Norman, the panic alarm, etc. As a mental health guide itself, however, I do feel like the book doesn't say much that we probably haven't already heard about mental health. I know it's not that kind of book but I do wish it was a little bit more anecdotal and a little less to-do-list. My favorite section was the one where the book went over different emotions — shame, grief, jealousy, etc. — and discussed how to deal with them.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Angela Magic Art

    This was EXCELLENT! I was not expecting to love it this much. Dan’s videos always made me laugh, and I’ve missed him while he was gone from the internet on his break. I wasn’t sure what to expect, I kinda thought this would be a satire about his mental health, and have tons of his self deprecating humor. And while there is humor in this book, it really is a Practical Guide to helping improve your mental health. SO many incredible tips and information. This book could help a lot of people. Dan re This was EXCELLENT! I was not expecting to love it this much. Dan’s videos always made me laugh, and I’ve missed him while he was gone from the internet on his break. I wasn’t sure what to expect, I kinda thought this would be a satire about his mental health, and have tons of his self deprecating humor. And while there is humor in this book, it really is a Practical Guide to helping improve your mental health. SO many incredible tips and information. This book could help a lot of people. Dan really did a good thing here. I highly recommend the audiobook, he narrates it and it is so wonderful to hear how passionate he is about these topics. Highly recommend you check this one out!

  18. 5 out of 5

    Rose

    Review to come soon. I'm glad that I picked this up to listen to. Dan's narration through components of exercising good practices for maintaining well being and self-care are helpful, at times hilarious, and grounding in the best moments. Some parts of the book drag a bit even with Dan's voice moving through the sections. I appreciated the narrative as a whole though. 3.5 to 4 stars overall, need to think it over a night to decide. Review to come soon. I'm glad that I picked this up to listen to. Dan's narration through components of exercising good practices for maintaining well being and self-care are helpful, at times hilarious, and grounding in the best moments. Some parts of the book drag a bit even with Dan's voice moving through the sections. I appreciated the narrative as a whole though. 3.5 to 4 stars overall, need to think it over a night to decide.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Natasha R

    my best friend and i got drunk and read this book together because we’re ex stans and we were getting a lot of asks about it and god it was PAINFUL. just the sheer narcissism of thinking this book was appropriate for him to write as somebody with no qualifications, very little primary experience, and a dwindling target demo of kids whose parents didn’t offer them therapy. it honestly makes my stomach churn. what kind of entitlement.  like first things first it was always going to be bad writing, my best friend and i got drunk and read this book together because we’re ex stans and we were getting a lot of asks about it and god it was PAINFUL. just the sheer narcissism of thinking this book was appropriate for him to write as somebody with no qualifications, very little primary experience, and a dwindling target demo of kids whose parents didn’t offer them therapy. it honestly makes my stomach churn. what kind of entitlement.  like first things first it was always going to be bad writing, but i didn't know it would be that bad? we've all been members of the too many commas gang at one point or another but i literally don't know how this got published. was there an editor. because he literally would make these three bullet lists for these skills that all meant the same thing because he has literally no idea what he's talking about!! and like listen. the fact it's a self help book is problematic enough. the fact it's a self help book written by someone who found out what therapy was 5 years ago is revolting. the fact it's a self help book written by somebody who's target audience is the 11-17 demographic, making this a mental health guide for KIDS but not written as if it was for kids (which while i'm an advocate for bodily autonomy there's an entire paragraph on masturbation so don't tell me it's for kids), is deplorable. then you can even just get into the content of the book. my personal favorite part is how there's an entire section where dan straight up mansplains maslow's hierarchy of needs and DOES SO IN HIS OWN WORDS AS IF HE CAME UP WITH THE CONCEPT!!!!!! COMPLETELY DESPITE THE FACT THIS STRUCTURE HAS FALLEN OUT OF FAVOR IN EVEN THE MOST BASIC OF DISCUSSION due to it's incredible racism, classism, and ableism!! literally the content of this book is exactly what you'd find on page one of google for "i'm sad?" he has that entire part where he's clearly trying to fill the niche of like "this is a grab bag of techniques while i tell you how hard it is to be a child of divorce" like bitch shut up!!! the only thing it would be qualified to do is as assigned reading for a middle school wellness class, but only if you were really desperate.

  20. 4 out of 5

    Ruthie

    it didn't feel right rating this, so i'm gonna stick with that instinct. as someone who's been to therapy a few times and done some reading on mental health before, i will say not much of this felt like new information to me, although i think the format and tone is different than what you may typically read in a mental health book. it's kind of every piece of mental health advice you could need compiled into one book - whether you're in crisis, a general state of depression, or generally okay bu it didn't feel right rating this, so i'm gonna stick with that instinct. as someone who's been to therapy a few times and done some reading on mental health before, i will say not much of this felt like new information to me, although i think the format and tone is different than what you may typically read in a mental health book. it's kind of every piece of mental health advice you could need compiled into one book - whether you're in crisis, a general state of depression, or generally okay but just wanting to better your mental health - and it's interspersed with anecdotes and quips written with dan howell's usual brand of self deprecating humor. despite much of this book being information i already knew, i won't pretend it didn't have an effect on me. i did, in fact, cry in my car one day when he hit a little too close to home. if you're anxious, depressed, in crisis, or even just having a shitty week, you might be surprised at how this makes you feel. dan makes a point to let you know that whatever and however you're feeling is okay and not your fault (you're valid, but like, unironically) but that it will not last forever. he uses personal experience as well as medically sound facts (the entire book was vetted by a psychologist) to help relate and explain what's going on in your brain and how you can help make it better. also, please read the audiobook. you will not regret it. not only is dan a good narrator, but there's an extra 30+ minutes of bonus content including q&a, breathing exercises, bloopers, a weird ass asmr sequence, and a lot of dan laughing and having fun. it was a unique and fun way to end an audiobook and helped lift my spirits a bit after days of toiling over my own less-than-ideal current state of mental health.

  21. 4 out of 5

    ❀ annie ❀

    i'm not too into self-help books usually because i'm way too mean and cynical to buy into most motivational stuff, but i decided to pick this one up bc dan howell was a biiig part of my teenage years hahaha. what i got was a nice, practical and often funny mental health guide, which i'm sure would be a lot of help to people who find this kinda thing useful. i'm glad i got this as an audiobook narrated by dan, or i reckon my attention might have slipped a little more, especially during all the 'pr i'm not too into self-help books usually because i'm way too mean and cynical to buy into most motivational stuff, but i decided to pick this one up bc dan howell was a biiig part of my teenage years hahaha. what i got was a nice, practical and often funny mental health guide, which i'm sure would be a lot of help to people who find this kinda thing useful. i'm glad i got this as an audiobook narrated by dan, or i reckon my attention might have slipped a little more, especially during all the 'practical exercises' the book offers. i'd recommend the audiobook version for any current or former fans of dan, as well as anyone with a limited attention span like myself! as i said, i'm not much for self-help, and i wouldn't say the book had a profound impact on me. but it was very enjoyable to listen to, definitely very calming and reassuring, and i really liked the fact that any self-help elements were interspersed with personal stories and jokes to stop it from feeling old :)

  22. 4 out of 5

    Demelda Penkitty

    There’s a moment at the end of every day, where the world falls away and you are left alone with your thoughts. A reckoning, when the things you have been pushing to the background, come forward and demand your attention.’ Written by Daniel Howell, in consultation with a qualified psychologist, in an entertaining and personal way from the perspective of someone who has been through it all – this no-nonsense book gives you the tools to understand your mind so you can be in control and really live. There’s a moment at the end of every day, where the world falls away and you are left alone with your thoughts. A reckoning, when the things you have been pushing to the background, come forward and demand your attention.’ Written by Daniel Howell, in consultation with a qualified psychologist, in an entertaining and personal way from the perspective of someone who has been through it all – this no-nonsense book gives you the tools to understand your mind so you can be in control and really live. Split into three chapters for each stage of the journey: This Night – how to get through your toughest moments and be prepared to face anything. Tomorrow – small steps to change your thoughts and actions with a big impact on your life. The Days After – help to look after yourself in the long term and not just survive, but thrive. You will laugh and learn – but most of all, this book will assure you that even in your darkest times, there is always hope. You will get through this night. This book is just so accessible, the way it is laid out with the three sections make it perfect for dipping into. Each chapter is interspersed with different techniques designed to help you take control of negative thoughts and anxieties. The way it's written and the use of language make it very personable and it didn't feel at all clinical. Despite knowing quite a bit about mental health, I still learned a few things! I will be utilizing a lot of these techniques that I’m keeping bookmarked, both for myself and others that I know need it. Perhaps the thing that surprised me most was the sheer ground covered in a concise and approachable way, while I am someone who is familiar with the concepts covered, it was still helpful to have these everyday useful techniques together with their justifications, along with someone talking about their journey relatably without a patronising manner. Overall, I am very impressed and will be recommending this book. Thank you to the lovely people at Tandem for sending me this copy.

  23. 4 out of 5

    Negar Gh

    I like Dan a lot but this felt like (was) every other self help book on the shelf with a bit of I am queer and therefore relatable thrown in.

  24. 5 out of 5

    Jin

    I didn't like it sorry. Feels like a self-indulgence project not actually about helping people. I didn't like it sorry. Feels like a self-indulgence project not actually about helping people.

  25. 5 out of 5

    Alicia

    i really really liked this, but most of all i'm happy that it exists! as someone who has worked in psychiatric hospitals before, most information in this book wasn't new to me, but i still loved the way it was presented, the careful way it was researched and how dan wove the information so neatly into his own experiences. (although he /does/ have a tendency to ramble on sometimes. sorry dan, ily.) i love that this book provides so many resources that people who don't go to therapy could otherwise i really really liked this, but most of all i'm happy that it exists! as someone who has worked in psychiatric hospitals before, most information in this book wasn't new to me, but i still loved the way it was presented, the careful way it was researched and how dan wove the information so neatly into his own experiences. (although he /does/ have a tendency to ramble on sometimes. sorry dan, ily.) i love that this book provides so many resources that people who don't go to therapy could otherwise not easily access and that it does so in such an accessible way. even if you have never heard of dan howell before: read this for what it is: a practical (and well researched) mental health guide.

  26. 4 out of 5

    Joey Cron

    I think this is probably a very base-level introduction to the self-help genre meant specifically for his fans, but I had a really good time with this. I don’t think it re invented the wheel, but the purpose really feels more so to bring a little bit of help to his fans who may be struggling. While the writing itself was a little dry in parts and not all of the jokes necessarily landed for me, the steps outlined in this felt like solid, genuine advice for how simple things can make an impact. If I think this is probably a very base-level introduction to the self-help genre meant specifically for his fans, but I had a really good time with this. I don’t think it re invented the wheel, but the purpose really feels more so to bring a little bit of help to his fans who may be struggling. While the writing itself was a little dry in parts and not all of the jokes necessarily landed for me, the steps outlined in this felt like solid, genuine advice for how simple things can make an impact. If you feel like you need help taking that first step toward self care and you’re a fan of Dan’s personality, I’d suggest checking it out. 3.5

  27. 4 out of 5

    Camille

    Self-help books are not my vibe. I essentially came out of the womb with sweaty palms, an emergency barf bag, and a bottle of Lexapro clenched in my fist. Despite the fact that the entire genre of self-help is written for people with struggles like mine, my (albeit, few) experiences with self-help literature have left me feeling even worse about myself than before I picked it up. These books often feel demeaning to me, as if there's an air of judgment surrounding every word of advice. Nothing is Self-help books are not my vibe. I essentially came out of the womb with sweaty palms, an emergency barf bag, and a bottle of Lexapro clenched in my fist. Despite the fact that the entire genre of self-help is written for people with struggles like mine, my (albeit, few) experiences with self-help literature have left me feeling even worse about myself than before I picked it up. These books often feel demeaning to me, as if there's an air of judgment surrounding every word of advice. Nothing is more frustrating as a person who has struggled all my life to keep my head above water than when someone who has clearly never dealt with these issues has the gall to try to instruct the masses on how to heal from them. Seriously, if one more person tells me to try meditating and cutting out coffee to cure my debilitating anxiety and depression, I might just have to sucker punch them. Daniel Howell's "You Will Get Through This Night" is the exception to my aversion to self-help books. Never for a moment during this "practical mental health guide" did I feel looked down upon, patronized, or misunderstood. The all-important difference between this guide and so many others? Howell is writing from experience (and he does so masterfully). He strikes a perfect balance between cold hard facts, descriptive and cohesive exercises, and engaging personal anecdotes. Howell's personal stories reveal a certain vulnerability that all-too-often lacks from a genre that so desperately depends on it. His trademark sardonic sense of humor in conjunction with this vulnerability makes for a read that is easy to swallow while not detracting from the seriousness of its topics. It's factual, helpful, and entertaining. It's the self-help book I've been waiting for for years. Dan, if by some glitch in the matrix you happen to be reading this - I am so damn proud of you. For eight years I have looked up to you: first as an online content creator, then as a mental health ambassador and queer activist, and now as an incredibly talented author who is changing lives with every copy sold. Thank you for what you do and please, please keep doing it. This book is so important.

  28. 5 out of 5

    Kara Jackson

    5 stars all around ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ “It turns out life can be slow, but it’s long, and change is inevitable.” “You should never rely on just one book, but this one is essentially the helpful highlights of half the library.” “Wasps of the mind that look like procreating elderly people killing each other. Let them buzz around and eventually they will get bored.” “Home is where the mind is.” “The reality is, we’re all a lot more paranoid than we need to be.” “Don’t give in to your fear- induced impulses – send 5 stars all around ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ “It turns out life can be slow, but it’s long, and change is inevitable.” “You should never rely on just one book, but this one is essentially the helpful highlights of half the library.” “Wasps of the mind that look like procreating elderly people killing each other. Let them buzz around and eventually they will get bored.” “Home is where the mind is.” “The reality is, we’re all a lot more paranoid than we need to be.” “Don’t give in to your fear- induced impulses – send that smoke- signal to your future soulmate.” Out all of many quotes I just listed above this one stuck out to me the most “You own your story, it’s your choice how much to share.” and “We tend to keep shame a secret. This is self-destructive as shame thrives on secrecy and only gives it more power over us.” Before I start off my review I will say I’m a huge fan of Dan and have been for years however that in no way effects my review of this book. Okay... Review starts here I preordered this book back in February before there was even a cover for it. I don’t usually read self help books especially self help books from white men but 1. Dan is my exception to both of those things. And 2. This is not a self help book nor a memoir. I also don’t really like youtuber books that much either but again Dan is another exception. Needless to say this was one of my most anticipated books of the year and the fact it got delivered to me two days before it’s release date, I’m very stoked. I figured that today was the perfect day to get this book read because 1. It’s dark and cloudy outside 2. It’s thundering and lightning, pouring rain Perfect moody weather. 3. It’s May 17th 2021 which means release date is tomorrow so I can get this read before and reviewed before tomorrow that’s cool. I can fully say with my upmost utter confidence this 100% without doubt did not disappoint. As John green stated in the 14 minutes and 45 seconds that I watched of their video together this book “made me feel like it’s Empathetic, and focused on helping.” “The person writing it cared about us and was genuinely interested in helping us but not just helping us understand what we are going through but help bring change into our lives.” I highly highly recommend reading this book because it is helpful like I said with that being said I feel like it can be read at different stages in your life but also make sure you are ready to because there might be some parts you don’t want to read and that’s okay too. This book will call you out even if you didn’t know you needed it; you’ll get called out yes ma’am/sir/theirs. We will all get through this night. You get through this night. I’ll get through this night. Sometimes we need to hear it. I’ll definitely becoming back to this book time after time. Again and again. I love how Dan split up this book in three sections and chapter headings and titles. With illustrations and graphs.

  29. 4 out of 5

    WallofText

    A longer review is linked here: http://congressionalreport.news.blog/... I came into this book both because I like Dan and because mental health is something I struggle with and have for several years. A lot of books focusing on similar topics have made me feel worse instead of better. From inaccurate claims to oversimplified solutions to a general lack of understanding and compassion towards those of us whose problems can’t be overcome by ‘just having a positive attitude’. This book is the exact A longer review is linked here: http://congressionalreport.news.blog/... I came into this book both because I like Dan and because mental health is something I struggle with and have for several years. A lot of books focusing on similar topics have made me feel worse instead of better. From inaccurate claims to oversimplified solutions to a general lack of understanding and compassion towards those of us whose problems can’t be overcome by ‘just having a positive attitude’. This book is the exact opposite of that. Structured into immediate, short-term, and long-term aspects, the guidance in this book is science-backed (a psychologist collaborate), clear, realistic, and empathetic. Whether through humor or compassion, I never felt like a failure for my issues or for not having everything figured out yet. Beyond what it has done for me personally, there is a lot this book does for the world. Mental health is something we all have and caring for ourselves shouldn’t be pushed off until we are in a full blown crisis. Struggling sometimes is okay and you are not broken, wrong, or a failure for doing so. This was one of the easiest 5 stars I have ever given. I desperately hope it gets translated into German so I can give a copy to everyone in my life who doesn’t read English books, it is that good.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Cassidy

    I’m not the type of person to read self help books, but I gave this a try because I’ve been a fan of Dan’s content for a long time. I would seriously recommend this to anyone struggling with their mental health! While I read this from cover to cover chronologically, you don’t have to. There are sections that help with immediate situations to long term techniques, and you can just pick a section for whatever you need help with in the moment. There were so many things in here that I resonated with I’m not the type of person to read self help books, but I gave this a try because I’ve been a fan of Dan’s content for a long time. I would seriously recommend this to anyone struggling with their mental health! While I read this from cover to cover chronologically, you don’t have to. There are sections that help with immediate situations to long term techniques, and you can just pick a section for whatever you need help with in the moment. There were so many things in here that I resonated with (I felt like I was being watched?? In a good way?? Like how did you know that I do that or think that?), so I can say this book helped me to feel not alone, and I came out of it with an improved outlook on my mental health!

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