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An urgent exploration of men's entitlement and how it serves to police and punish women, from the acclaimed author of Down Girl. In this bold and stylish critique, Cornell philosopher Kate Manne offers a radical new framework for understanding misogyny. Ranging widely across the culture, from Harvey Weinstein and the Brett Kavanaugh hearings to "Cat Person" and the politica An urgent exploration of men's entitlement and how it serves to police and punish women, from the acclaimed author of Down Girl. In this bold and stylish critique, Cornell philosopher Kate Manne offers a radical new framework for understanding misogyny. Ranging widely across the culture, from Harvey Weinstein and the Brett Kavanaugh hearings to "Cat Person" and the political misfortunes of Elizabeth Warren, Manne's book shows how privileged men's sense of entitlement - to sex, yes, but more insidiously to admiration, care, bodily autonomy, knowledge, and power - is a pervasive social problem with often devastating consequences. In clear, lucid prose, Manne argues that male entitlement can explain a wide array of phenomena, from mansplaining and the under-treatment of women's pain to mass shootings by incels and the seemingly intractable notion that women are "unelectable." Moreover, Manne implicates each of us in toxic masculinity: It's not just a product of a few bad actors; it's something we all perpetuate, conditioned as we are by the social and cultural mores of our time. The only way to combat it, she says, is to expose the flaws in our default modes of thought while enabling women to take up space, say their piece, and muster resistance to the entitled attitudes of the men around them. With wit and intellectual fierceness, Manne sheds new light on gender and power and offers a vision of a world in which women are just as entitled as men to our collective care and concern.


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An urgent exploration of men's entitlement and how it serves to police and punish women, from the acclaimed author of Down Girl. In this bold and stylish critique, Cornell philosopher Kate Manne offers a radical new framework for understanding misogyny. Ranging widely across the culture, from Harvey Weinstein and the Brett Kavanaugh hearings to "Cat Person" and the politica An urgent exploration of men's entitlement and how it serves to police and punish women, from the acclaimed author of Down Girl. In this bold and stylish critique, Cornell philosopher Kate Manne offers a radical new framework for understanding misogyny. Ranging widely across the culture, from Harvey Weinstein and the Brett Kavanaugh hearings to "Cat Person" and the political misfortunes of Elizabeth Warren, Manne's book shows how privileged men's sense of entitlement - to sex, yes, but more insidiously to admiration, care, bodily autonomy, knowledge, and power - is a pervasive social problem with often devastating consequences. In clear, lucid prose, Manne argues that male entitlement can explain a wide array of phenomena, from mansplaining and the under-treatment of women's pain to mass shootings by incels and the seemingly intractable notion that women are "unelectable." Moreover, Manne implicates each of us in toxic masculinity: It's not just a product of a few bad actors; it's something we all perpetuate, conditioned as we are by the social and cultural mores of our time. The only way to combat it, she says, is to expose the flaws in our default modes of thought while enabling women to take up space, say their piece, and muster resistance to the entitled attitudes of the men around them. With wit and intellectual fierceness, Manne sheds new light on gender and power and offers a vision of a world in which women are just as entitled as men to our collective care and concern.

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  1. 5 out of 5

    s.penkevich

    ‘Misogyny is typically (though not invariably) a response to a woman’s violation of gendered “law and order”’ Following her essential treatise on the nature of misogyny, Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny, Dr. Kate Manne is back with a collection of essays to further examine the enforcement role misogyny plays in upholding the patriarchy. This time she turns her attention specifically on male entitlement, though in doing so addresses many of the systemic aspects of patriarchal control. In her own w ‘Misogyny is typically (though not invariably) a response to a woman’s violation of gendered “law and order”’ Following her essential treatise on the nature of misogyny, Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny, Dr. Kate Manne is back with a collection of essays to further examine the enforcement role misogyny plays in upholding the patriarchy. This time she turns her attention specifically on male entitlement, though in doing so addresses many of the systemic aspects of patriarchal control. In her own words, ‘Entitled tackles a wide range of ways in which misogyny ¹, himpathy, and male entitlement work in tandem with other oppressive systems to produce unjust, perverse, and sometimes bizarre outcomes.’ While Down Girl, for self-imposed reasoning, tended to mostly address misogyny from a white, cis standpoint, what is really welcomed in this collection is the way the essays give opening to discussions on misogynoir--the intersection of oppression on Black identity with misogyny as coined by queer Black feminist Moya Bailey--and trans folx. Throughout the book, Dr. Manne takes an important look at the ways male entitlement is another vile tentacle of the patriarchy and emboldened of misogyny and looks at different aspects of society in which this is omnipresent such as entitlement to knowledge, power, sex, consent, medical care, bodily control domestic labor and the intersections of these. The book opens with a concise portrait of her image of entitlement: ‘ the widespread perception that a privileged man is owed something even as exalted as a position on the Supreme Court’. Similar to her New York Times article on Brett Kavanaugh, Manne uses his SCOTUS interviews to illustrate many of the aspects of misogyny detailed in her philosophical treatise Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny to reestablish definitions and ideas in order to further investigate them in the following chapters. To recap the definition she arrives at in her previous work, Manne describes misogyny as ‘the “law enforcement” branch of the patriarchy,’ a system that upholds patriarchal norms and polices or punishes women and girls who threaten or deviate from the norms. ‘My account of misogyny counsels us to focus less on the individual perpetrators,’ she writes, ‘and more on misogyny’s targets and victims.’ Her rationale is that ‘misogyny doesn’t require us to know what someone is feeling,’ to identify that they perpetuate misogyny and mostly that ’misogyny may be a purely structural phenomenon, perpetuated by social institutions, policies, and broader cultural mores.’ While often using individual examples to best grasp the concepts, Manne has an extraordinary ability to demonstrate how these become larger truths indicative of a systemic and systematic oppression and skillfully examines power structures or groups--such as INCELS and the Pro-Life movement--and the way they enforce the patriarchy at the expense of cis and trans women. There is an exquisite flow to Dr. Manne’s writing, often threading an overarching study or story through her examinations of a subject in a way that builds a sort of narrative tension compelling you to read on, gripping the book like a thriller despite the disquieting subject matter. Her style is so utterly engaging and coupled with a mastery of discourse and elegant yet direct writing that make Entitled so endlessly readable. Which is cause for celebration, since this is such an important subject and her accessibility into the topic will make it easier to approach and learn from for others. I honestly can’t applaud her enough, though--full disclosure--she is an academic hero of mine and I just really want everyone to read this book and take it to heart. Dr. Manne draws from an impressive litany of scientific studies and cultural examples--even using the viral short story Cat Person by Kristen Roupenian at one point--to reinforce her arguments as well as demonstrate the ways in which her subject matter seeps into every aspect of society. The Milgram Shock Experiment, for example--which has been used as a touchstone for examining totalitarianism for decades--is put in a new perspective here as an example of how people can be socially coached into upholding oppressive institutionalized misogyny. On the Entitlement of Admiration really kickstarts the collection with a probing look at the Incel community and the violence perpetrated by them in the name of misogyny. This chapter opens the prospects of examining how misogyny is an aspect of a perceived hierarchy--something pop-philosophers like the disgraced Jordan Peterson have upheld specifically for the purpose of perpetuating a patriarchal society towards their own benefits--that is racially coupled with white supremacy. This section also approaches the way in which perpetrators of misogyny often shift the narrative because they ‘perceive themselves as being the vulnerable ones.’ It is through gaslighting and himpathetic support that patriarch enforcers are able to establish and maintain this narrative control, which bleeds into every aspect of entitlement discussed later in the book. The entitlements pertaining to sex and consent are particularly of note in the #metoo era and the ways that a women’s behavior is often more regulated and explained by society than those who have inflicted sexual violence upon them. Dr. Manne frequently aims the discourse towards the methods of silencing women and efforts to decenter them from their own victimization, particularly as the disbelief of women is amplified ‘for women who are multiply marginalized, because they are Black, queer, trans, and/or disabled.’ As women are significantly less likely to be believed or listened to, even in medical situations where studies have shown women are largely dismissed as being hysterical instead of believing their actual instances of feeling pain, this leads to a normalizing issues of ‘testimonial smothering’. The term, as coined by philosopher Kristie Dotson refers to ‘where a speaker self-silences, due to her anticipating that her wod will not receive the proper uptake, and may instead place her in an “unsafe or risky” situation.’ Consider this next time an accusation of rape of assault is met with accusations dismissing them for not coming forth sooner, or--in the larger scheme of things--the ways accusations are difficult due to the himpathy and rampant misogyny that has normalized disbelief in women’s testimonies. This is especially frightening in medical situations where already most medical models use cis male bodies as a standard metric. Of particular note is the chapter on bodily control. This begins with a damning indictment of the Pro Life movement and the vicious marketing campaigns that brought it to a national political discourse. Dr. Manne step by step evicerates the movement by pointing out their many hypocracies--’the anti-abortion movement is not plausibly about life. It is not plausibly about religion, either’--before turning her attention to its origins and the way it Beginning with Nixon and his “Triple A: Acid, Amnesty and Abortion” smear campaign against McGovern, Dr. Manne demonstrates how the movement was never about abortion but garnering votes via bad faith arguments ².Overall, she demonstrates how the movement is an essential misogynist weapon that removes women from ownership of their own bodies.On the double standard normalized by the movement she writes: ‘Boys will be boys, but women who get pregnant have behaved irresponsibly. We are so comfortable with regulating women’s sexual behavior, but we’re shocked by the idea of doing it to men.’ Dr. Manne returns to the ideas expressed in earlier chapters that entitlement and male supremacy fixates not on the idea of woman as sub-human, per say (though the Incel rhetoric may place them in this hierarchy for their own vile convenience), but because ‘even if her humanity is not in doubt, it is perceived as owed to others.’ This is a succinct wrapping of misogyny over the whole issue, coupled with the aspects of white supremacy reinforcing it due to the undeniable fact that removing the pathways to legal abortion does not, in fact, reduce the number of abortions and exponentially causes harm to marginalized folx ‘for when pregnancies are policed it is predominantly poor and nonwhite women who are liable to pay for it--and not only with respect to access to abortion.’ Dr. Manne extends this discussion to bodily control over the trans community. Citing philosopher Talia Mae Bettcher, she points out how much of the violence perpetrated against trans women is due to an entitlement of men to know what sex organs are in their pants. ‘pensis and vaginas [are] seen...as “legitimate possessions” to which males and females respectively have moral entitlements.’ On the topic of bathrooms, Dr. Manne eloquently points out that the victims in the situation are not cis women hypothetically being preyed upon by fake trans folx using identity as an avenue to violence but the actual trans women who have frequently been assaulted or killed. ‘The notional victims,’ she writes about these disproven ideas of bathroom assaults by trans folx, ‘serve as a post hoc rationalization fro the preexisting desire to police the supposed moral offender.’ Most anti-trans rhetoric is largely bad faith arguments attempting to pre-impose a belief of violence on those who are actually most likely to be the victims of violence. ’[T]he anti-abortion movenent’s supposed pre-occupation with life belies the fact that it undermines the health and lives of cis girls and women, along with other people who may also become pregnant. Similarly, the anti-trans movement’s supposed preoccupation with sexual safety and lives of a particularly vulnerable class of people: namely, tans girls and women, who are disproportionately liable to be attacked, assaulted, and murdered, at rates that recently prompted the American Medical Association to declare this an epidemic.’ Many of the threads discussed through the book culminate in the later chapter, On the Entitlement to Power, in which Dr. Manne discusses the ways that misogyny not only harms women in the workplace but in the access to political power as well. If you are to only read one essay this year, make it this chapter. Manne references studies that show ‘a marked, consistent bias towards the male leader,’ and how this all relates to socially enforced perceptions of “likeability”. ‘[S]ocial psychologists have speculated that there’s something about women who seek the highest positions of power and the most masculine-coded authority positions that people continue to find off-putting.’ Many of these same traits people disdain in women they will praise in men, and there is an added emphasis that women must be considered kind and caring. ‘When it comes to demonstrable niceness, it’s an imperative for powerful women--and seemingly inconsequential for their male rivals.’ This is run through examples from recent American politics--Dr. Manne’s incredible essay on the Elizabeth Warren campaign is a noteworthy supplement--and also misogynist attacks on New Zeeland’s Prime Minister, Jacinda Ardern. This chapter is such a powerful amalgamation of the themes in the book and any voter should read it and consider how patriarchal systems perpetuate themselves through power struggles that enforce their viewpoints as the normalized reality when ‘[women] are not entitled to challenge the narrative put forward by their male counterparts.’ This is an essential read that is of vast importance in today’s society. There are many more aspects covered, such as the disparity of household duties between men and women and the mansplaining insistancy on the entitlement to knowledge that draws from the essay Men Explain Things to Me (read it here) by Rebecca Solnit. Dr. Kate Manne gives a brilliant and cutting overview in the many ways male entitlement is an oppressive force in society that harms women. In conclusion, she writes ‘although I am still far from hopeful, I am not so despairing anymore.’ The final section is a beautiful conclusion full of hope, and a necessary read for any parent, particularly those of young girls. While the obdurate patriarchal society is still at large and violently so, works such as this are a vital avenue to understanding and dismantling it. 5/5 ¹ Himpathy, as defined by Dr. Manne: ‘the way powerful and privileged boys and men who commit acts of sexual violence or engage in other misogynistic behavior often receive sympathy and concern over their female victims.’ For further reading on a similar concept, this article on ‘male bumblers’ by Lili Loofbourow is an insightful read on the ways males play a ‘forgetful/unaware bumbler’ in order to wash their hands of misogyny or sexual violence. ² For further reading, it is important to consider how the Pro Life movement really took off as a deterrence towards Carter’s reelection, as discussed in this article by Politico. While many churches actively supported Row vs Wade--Southern Baptists twice drafted statements of support following the ruling--political marketers seized on abortion as a clever cover to attract evangelical voters who were upset that the IRS was threatening to remove tax exempt status for segregated schools.

  2. 4 out of 5

    Christine

    During the twenty-four hours in which I read this book, a politician from Kansas, a Democrat, dropped out of a political race because of either his father was sick and/or he sexually harassed and bulled girls when he was 14. Currently he is 19. One of his victims tried to commit suicide. The amount of people excusing his behavior. “He was young,” “What young boy doesn’t do that” and so on. This reaction is hardly new. It happens all the damn time. Boys will be boys and that’s an excuse. Girls be During the twenty-four hours in which I read this book, a politician from Kansas, a Democrat, dropped out of a political race because of either his father was sick and/or he sexually harassed and bulled girls when he was 14. Currently he is 19. One of his victims tried to commit suicide. The amount of people excusing his behavior. “He was young,” “What young boy doesn’t do that” and so on. This reaction is hardly new. It happens all the damn time. Boys will be boys and that’s an excuse. Girls better be ladies or else. On the day that the man dropped out of the race, AITA tweeted a story from a man who wondered if he was an asshole because he “sided” with his son’s ex girlfriend. Apparently, she became pregnant and because she refused to get an abortion, the son kicked her out of the apartment they shared. The poster and his ex-wife decided to support the ex-girlfriend giving her housing and support (her family disowned her for bringing shame on them). The poster, it should go without saying, is NTA. But the story illustrates the price that women pay that men never have to. She is judged (not by the poster) by a totally different standard than her sex partner is. Women are talked about like they get magically pregnant on their own. IT takes two. Manne’s book, a follow up to Down Girl, deals with issues like these – the question of himopathy and hererasue. Himpathy meaning sympathy for the man above all else (think Brett Kavanaugh or Brock Turner) and hererasure (the pain of the woman is forgotten, her experience is disregarded). Manne looks at various places where men have privilege that women don’t. Entitlement being a more operative word. Quite frankly, while the whole book is engrossing and great and filled with material, the two stand out sections are the one about abortion (she dismantles the pro-life movement) and the other on health care, in particular care for Black women who are routinely neglected and disregarded. Manne admits her position of privilege (she is a white woman) but is careful to note the differences that privilege gives to white woman as opposed to others. Additionally, she points out that society holds the women accountable for abortion but not the man. Why is this? Let us think. The book covers mansplaining, rape, belief, power and so on. It is an important read.

  3. 4 out of 5

    Donna Hines

    How's a woman to win given the biases each of us faces today? That fear of true perfection lest we feel disqualified weighs heavily upon our shoulders. Women are being held to higher standards in all walks of life. When it comes to careers if they are intelligent and speak their minds they'll be seen as biotches and aggressive. If they venture out to seek a Presidency and break that glass ceiling they will be told they are not believable nor credible and the smear campaign will be elicited. Everythin How's a woman to win given the biases each of us faces today? That fear of true perfection lest we feel disqualified weighs heavily upon our shoulders. Women are being held to higher standards in all walks of life. When it comes to careers if they are intelligent and speak their minds they'll be seen as biotches and aggressive. If they venture out to seek a Presidency and break that glass ceiling they will be told they are not believable nor credible and the smear campaign will be elicited. Everything from their viewpoints to their health will be questioned and not taken seriously especially considering that they do more in terms of caretaking, put themselves last on the list of priorities, and often tolerate more pain. When gaslighting is in play it's a different ball game entirely. Victims may be subjected to disputing the gaslighter's events, their version of the narrative, and yes even their side of the story. It's a mind game that leaves one thinking and feeling as if they are crazy because it's an intentional force placed upon them by the gaslighter. One such experience that the author shared was with the story of Dirty John. A sicko, con artist, liar, and fraud who used pics of women to send to their children's schools as a form of blackmail. This tactic is an attempt to silence their targets/victims and prevent them from telling the truths and their stories. The author notes: The upshot; regardless of their own gender, people tend to assume that men in historically male dominated positions of power are more competent than women, unless this assumption is explicitly contradicted by further information. As a strong tenacious feminist I feel this rejection daily for going after the higher roles. I've been called every name in the book for simply refusing to back down and expose what I call the 'big boy network' and I will not stop. I've also been left bankrupt, homeless, and LT unemployed after divorcing a malignant narcissist so I understand fully the mind games utilized as I now council others. The terms such as "interpersonally hostile," disliked, pushy, selfish, conniving, are just some terms women may have been subjected too. However, I'll never forget upon filing a protection order of abuse and having an attorney tell me I deserved the abuse as my ex-spouse from an 11 yr marriage and the mother of his three kids allowed the door to the room to close upon me. It's this notion that women aren't equals and that we somehow should take a back seat and not upset the apple cart that gets me to this day. The worst story about male privilege I possess: The Catholic church I spent two years serving as a female usher told me the men need time to come around to this new line of thinking after they forcibly ripped the collection basket out of my hands at the back of the church during Sunday Mass and the priest on duty that day decided to ignore it and pretend he never seen me before. I have never felt more broken than after this experience but that's not all not by a long shot because shortly after this experience I sent a cold call email to the President of the local United Way. I was seeking employment full time to support my kids after divorcing and sought such with a dual masters for the past ten years while living in extreme poverty. I poured my heart and soul into this request for a job interview and was excited about the possibilities. I was invited in for the interview and the first question asked:Why have you not been able to get a job? When I explained the god honest truths: The nepotism in hiring, corruption, economy in which I just lost a job hire because of economic uncertainty, jobs going to friends already working or being saved for friends with felonies on record, or jobs going to the presidents of other major companies, they said I was entitled. ENTITLED? Now this is a new one... I was told I came across as entitled because I have a gap in employment having raised kids for 20 yrs while volunteering during all that time full time without pay. So when I now seek employment after all these volunteer hours and having been the recipient of the nations highest honor: Points of Light Award by our 41st President of the USA (George HW Bush) I'm told I'm entitled... Yes, folks and their you have it. Please don't ever tell someone whose lived in extreme poverty and hasn't been able to secure employment for the past 10 years that she's entitled because nobody in their right mind would ever volunteer for twenty years for any reason other than the love of service and helping those in need. I'm not sure when we went from women's equality to all these injustices and lack of hearsay on women's issues but the pendulum is swinging backwards and our rights are slowly being taken away and it's maddening, disheartening, and insane to watch it play out real time. I can only pray that we all do our part to keep our stories in the spotlight and not lose our voices. Thank you to this author for her courage, tenacity, and voice.

  4. 4 out of 5

    Lou

    Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women is an exploration of male privilege, including male entitlement, both individual and systemic, to sex, power, and knowledge, and how this entitlement causes grave and deadly consequences for society at large, and women more specifically; this is the sophomore offering from prominent and well-respected Australian philosopher Kate Manne. From the dawn of time, misogyny has been an issue, albeit the term was not coined to describe the rampant inequality betw Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women is an exploration of male privilege, including male entitlement, both individual and systemic, to sex, power, and knowledge, and how this entitlement causes grave and deadly consequences for society at large, and women more specifically; this is the sophomore offering from prominent and well-respected Australian philosopher Kate Manne. From the dawn of time, misogyny has been an issue, albeit the term was not coined to describe the rampant inequality between the sexes until 1615 in a play written by Joseph Swetnam. Since then there has been a battle raging on many different fronts and here Manne scrutinises recent case studies of male privilege and misogyny deftly illustrating the consequences such behaviours have on society as a whole. Gender should not be a prerequisite to success and it's time people realised that patriarchal structures are just as oppressive as any other form of discrimination. One of the reasons I feel there are quite a few detractors to the feminist cause of late is because it's meaning has slowly morphed into something that it was never intended to be — this move towards being wary of the cause was incontrovertibly brought about by radical feminists and those who have altered the meaning of feminism from a cause seeking equality between genders to one seeking to bestow superiority upon women and therefore merely subverting the status quo. From politics to medicine, consent to domestic chores, Manne creates a vast portrait of the ways in which male entitlement and misogyny intertwine. This is an incisive and profoundly perceptive read which delivers a hard-hitting dose of reality to those who are asleep to the problems patriarchy causes. Just as I am writing this I noticed that on the author's Twitter she has stated that a pinned tweet advertising this book had been mass reported and then removed; I feel this is a damning indictment of those who wish the prejudice against women to continue unabated and will stop at nothing to ensure women do not feel empowered to fight for their rights instigated by inspiring, engaging and brutally honest books such as this. An accessible must-read for those interested in the way in which society currently works, Entitled teaches us to remember our value in a world that fails to reflect what we deserve back at us. Women have won some hard-fought mini-battles, for the vote for instance, however, we are still fighting to be equal on other fronts, such as the right to equal pay in the workplace for two employees carrying out the same tasks. It is clear that we have achieved many smaller worthwhile victories but we are still yet to win the war. Many thanks to Allen Lane for an ARC.

  5. 4 out of 5

    Christina

    Totally agree with the previous reviewer that this is a tough but necessary read. I was furious from about page 3 of this book till the end (actually, I've been furious since November 2016, but who's counting) but it is such a well-written commentary on what is happening in our society right now, and takes on timely topics like Brett Kavanaugh and the way his entitlement played a role in his confirmation. I was especially blown away by chapter 3, "On the Entitlement to Sex," which is a feminist Totally agree with the previous reviewer that this is a tough but necessary read. I was furious from about page 3 of this book till the end (actually, I've been furious since November 2016, but who's counting) but it is such a well-written commentary on what is happening in our society right now, and takes on timely topics like Brett Kavanaugh and the way his entitlement played a role in his confirmation. I was especially blown away by chapter 3, "On the Entitlement to Sex," which is a feminist topic I have never seen framed in this particular way and I have to wonder why not? The chapter on the Entitlement to Medical Care was also completely mind-blowing. You might have to take some breaks while reading this to breathe or perhaps throw your Kindle across the room but you will be better for reading this when you are done. I wish the white men in my life (even the woke white men) would also read this book and consider their entitlements and their effect on the world. Kate Manne follows in the excellent footsteps of Susan Faludi with exceptionally researched and well-documented work on how far behind women still are in terms of equality.

  6. 4 out of 5

    Lisa Konet

    *****WARNING: THIS NOT AN EASY READ****VERY GRAPHIC***** This read is not for the faint of heart or those with a weak stomach. Anyone with a real conscience can empathize with the each individual woman who was sexually assaulted. All these cases have one thing in common; the men in question are rich and successful, so these heinous actions don't seem like a big deal to them. The author highlights Harvey Weinstein and Brett Kavanaugh just to name a few tat were big in the media and on television; *****WARNING: THIS NOT AN EASY READ****VERY GRAPHIC***** This read is not for the faint of heart or those with a weak stomach. Anyone with a real conscience can empathize with the each individual woman who was sexually assaulted. All these cases have one thing in common; the men in question are rich and successful, so these heinous actions don't seem like a big deal to them. The author highlights Harvey Weinstein and Brett Kavanaugh just to name a few tat were big in the media and on television; as well as discussing how men have been the masterminds of mass shootings over the last twenty years. I like how she uses the term "toxic masculinity." Our current commander in chief falls into this category as well but that's all I'm going to say about that. At some point in these insights, the author switches gears to explain that women are just as capable of these actions and sense of entitlement as men. This book doesn't make the male gender look very good as a whole especially in today's world. Very grim mood throughout the book also fused with anger about the senseless violence. I think this is a necessary book and is a topic that shouldn't be taboo or an afterthought. I think this should be read by every man in politics and in a leadership role and be taken seriously to bring these horrific cases to a lower number. This needs to stop, PERIOD. Anyone and anything with heartbeat deserves more than that Thanks to NetGalley, Kate Manne, and Crown Oublishing for an ARC in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own. Available: 8/11/20

  7. 4 out of 5

    Sarah Shaheen

    Down girl is one of the greatest books I've ever read; it affected me profoundly, and gave me the intellectual ammunition that I occasionally use in my little feminist crusades. While reading Entitled, I was nagged by the idea that this book, however great and well written, it barely scratches the surface of some virulent and ubiquitous misogyny. But it's not Manne's fault, she outright admits that her work is concerned with misogyny in the western hemisphere, and analyzing it on a general level Down girl is one of the greatest books I've ever read; it affected me profoundly, and gave me the intellectual ammunition that I occasionally use in my little feminist crusades. While reading Entitled, I was nagged by the idea that this book, however great and well written, it barely scratches the surface of some virulent and ubiquitous misogyny. But it's not Manne's fault, she outright admits that her work is concerned with misogyny in the western hemisphere, and analyzing it on a general level shall be above her pay grade, which is totally plausible. But the thing is, while reading, I felt that we -females who don't live in the western hemisphere- we just don't have the luxury to discuss these forms of misogyny (some of them really subtle albeit harmful). The forms we face are much more flagrant, much more in-your-face. People still -in our very days- debate over whether women should dress as they please and not get harrassed violently in the public spaces. Some still debate over the moral soundness of honor killings, of wife beating, of harmful polygamy. Prominent figures go as far as absloving sexual harassers and rapists. As far as interpreting paedophilia as a result to women's inappropriate sartorial choices. The problem was with me, with the lack of our own feminist literature, and with me resorting to read anything trying to make sense of this lopsided world. Kate Manne is one of my heroines, her work is always galvanizing, and no matter what, Im bound to find something in it that speaks to me on a deeper level. In this book it was the chapters regarding women's pain and the shameful failure of health care providers to recognize it, and of course the one on abortion. As an aspiring doctor I was intrigued. The end note was a masterpiece. Holding my breath for her upcoming projects.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Wick Welker

    A good status update about modern misogyny. I enjoyed Manne's Entitled but I wouldn't say this was an earth-shattering-must-read about the widespread entitlement of white men. Manne catalogs the egregious acts of rape, sexual assault and exploitation of powerful men from Kavanaugh to Weinstien to other lesser known recent accounts. While she does put forth some research into male entitlement, I found it cursory and sparse compared to the constant anecdotes that litter these pages. I don't assert A good status update about modern misogyny. I enjoyed Manne's Entitled but I wouldn't say this was an earth-shattering-must-read about the widespread entitlement of white men. Manne catalogs the egregious acts of rape, sexual assault and exploitation of powerful men from Kavanaugh to Weinstien to other lesser known recent accounts. While she does put forth some research into male entitlement, I found it cursory and sparse compared to the constant anecdotes that litter these pages. I don't assert that Manne needs a whole lot of evidence to prove the phenomenon of male entitlement, because it is quite self evident. This work, however, was not as scholarly as I would've liked. Some of her handling of medical conditions of women were outright inaccurate (she claims that a woman who had an ovarian cyst risked having a blood clot that could've dislodged to the heart. This is physically impossible.) Manne plays around with some new terms "Himpathy" and "Sherasure" which is all good and fine but I was really looking for a deeper analysis of the foundation, enabling forces and solutions to the invasive misogyny of our society. I mostly found egregious account after account, dialogue transcripts and anecdotal crimes. It felt like #metoo headlines from the last three years all stringed together with little analysis. I felt that this book aimed for sensationalism over in depth analysis. Despite this work being a little superficial, the message and condemnation is of the utmost importance and so I found Entitled to be worth the read.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Sara

    It is a truth universally acknowledged that a man humblebragging about giving money to the homeless on Facebook will get a hundred more likes than the woman who opens a shelter, a man crying over a bunion more sympathy than a recent widow, and a man making the same tired cultural references will be deferred to (often by women teeming with female relational aggression) as a wit and a default expert, a veritable creative soul. Entitlement to power, to admiration, and to knowledge. It’s all here. T It is a truth universally acknowledged that a man humblebragging about giving money to the homeless on Facebook will get a hundred more likes than the woman who opens a shelter, a man crying over a bunion more sympathy than a recent widow, and a man making the same tired cultural references will be deferred to (often by women teeming with female relational aggression) as a wit and a default expert, a veritable creative soul. Entitlement to power, to admiration, and to knowledge. It’s all here. That said, this feels a bit too much like a retread of Down Girl. You can skip one if you’ve read the other. Rebecca Solnit’s essay, discussed at unnecessary length in one chapter here, was revolutionary in that it tied misogyny and male violence to subtler social dynamics. Here, we get that with well-publicized examples, but I would have liked a little less on Elliot Roger and Brett Kavanaugh (Manne discussed Roger and Kavanaugh in her previous book and we’re well-versed in the horrifying double standards they reveal) and more on those dinner parties at which we’re cut off and forced to listen to the same tired stories again and again.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Anthony Pignataro

    I can’t think of a more useful book to understand the U.S. right now. Whereas Manne’s earlier book Down Girl focused on the ways in which society polices women who violate or even question patriarchal codes, Entitled looks at the extent to which men behave in ways not afforded to women. Manne looks at Brett Kavanaugh’s appointment to the Supreme Court, Elizabeth Warren’s failure as a presidential candidate, incels, the unequal distribution of housework, the often horrible ways rape victims get t I can’t think of a more useful book to understand the U.S. right now. Whereas Manne’s earlier book Down Girl focused on the ways in which society polices women who violate or even question patriarchal codes, Entitled looks at the extent to which men behave in ways not afforded to women. Manne looks at Brett Kavanaugh’s appointment to the Supreme Court, Elizabeth Warren’s failure as a presidential candidate, incels, the unequal distribution of housework, the often horrible ways rape victims get treated, and other topics. Her chapter on female pain—and the ways medical professionals too often believe men while discounting women, even though it’s entirely possible that women actually experience more pain than men—is both heart-breaking and infuriating. Whereas Down Girl ended with near-hopelessness at thought that anything would ever meaningfully change, Entitled has a far more optimistic ending. Indeed, the final half dozen pages or so contained some of the most beautiful writing I’ve seen all year.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Ginger Bensman

    This is a thoughtful discussion about misogyny and male entitlement, much of it so structural, ubiquitous and embedded in the very norms of society that it takes a special kind of social/philosophical anthropologist to bring it into the light of day, and help women describe and understand their shared experience and demand change. Kate Manne is exactly that kind of brilliant anthropologist.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Sharad Pandian

    Unfortunately, unlike the many positive reviews here, mine is pretty similar to my reaction to her previous Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny. It’s important to understand what Manne is out to accomplish and what she isn’t – unlike the original feminist theorists, Manne’s analysis isn’t about a radical rethinking of gender. That work has already been done and continues to be furthered by other hands. Neither is Manne undertaking any original sociological study or journalistic investigation or arc Unfortunately, unlike the many positive reviews here, mine is pretty similar to my reaction to her previous Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny. It’s important to understand what Manne is out to accomplish and what she isn’t – unlike the original feminist theorists, Manne’s analysis isn’t about a radical rethinking of gender. That work has already been done and continues to be furthered by other hands. Neither is Manne undertaking any original sociological study or journalistic investigation or archival dig or historical inquiry. Instead, she is an analytic philosopher offering a new conceptual scheme to systematically arrange various feminist judgements and pop analysis of various events covered by American press. The aim of such an activity is presumably to supply a kind of coherence to these various splintered judgements, and ideally prime us to identity more not-yet identified cases in a similar manner to her own. I. Conceptual framework The conceptual framework she provides here is the same one she provided in Down Girl, and I’ve already indicated I think it’s a pretty neat one. Here misogyny is the “law enforcement” branch of patriarchy—a system that functions to police and enforce gendered norms and expectations, and involves girls and women facing disproportionately or distinctively hostile treatment because of their gender, among other factors. Sexism is the theoretical and ideological branch of patriarchy: the beliefs, ideas, and assumptions that serve to rationalize and naturalize patriarchal norms and expectations—including a gendered division of labor, and men’s dominance over women in areas of traditionally male power and authority. Two tweaks (if I remember correctly) help further this account. First, she proposes that while misogyny itself is rife and everyone may participate to some extent, we save the label of misogynist for “someone who is an overachiever in perpetuating misogyny: practicing misogyny with particular frequency and consistency compared to others in that environment.” This sounds like good strategy. Second, she clarifies that misogyny can target even “well-behaved” women and so isn’t just a mechanism targeted at those who break the norms of patriarchy. As we’ve seen, misogyny need not target girls and women universally; it often singles out those who are “bad” by the lights of patriarchal norms and expectations, and punishes them for their misdeeds, be these real or apparent. It’s important not to misunderstand this point by overgeneralizing it, however. There is ample room in my framework to acknowledge the obvious fact that misogyny can target or victimize almost any girl or woman, regardless of her individual, gendered “good” behavior. This is partly because women are often treated as representative of a certain “type” of woman, and effectively blamed or punished for the misdeeds of the whole collective. It is also partly because misogynistic aggression can stem from myriad forms of dissatisfaction (resulting from men’s being subject to capitalist exploitation, for example). And it may then involve displacement—colloquially, “punching down” behavior, directed at those who are vulnerable and available, who often happen to be women. If a woman faces this displaced aggression because she lives in a historically patriarchal world—in which men have long had, and continue to have, social permission to “act out”—she is still a victim of misogyny, according to my analysis. Finally, it bears mentioning that misogynistic social structures may have a reach that vastly exceeds their aim, and thus may punish a vast swath of women, beyond the intended or first-line targets. I think it was good to adress this, but I'm still now really sure how this account would still cover cases like female human trafficking, where it's clearly a gendered situation, but not really one that's punishment, or because those women were representative of a type, or arising because of dissatisfaction. But alright. II. Fitting into framework Now for the positives - there are two that need to highlighted. While it is true that Manne doesn't do any original case-studies (apart from reading a few documents like Elliot Rodger's manifesto) she does in fact draw from a lot of very cool sources. Her discussion of “exceptional clearance” (based on a 2018 investigation by The Center for Investigative Reporting) was horrifyingly illuminating, and I definitely want to read Thick: And Other Essays now. Second, and related, by bringing together a range of incidents, Manne does show that her association of misogyny with male entitlement does in fact fit quite a number of phenomena that feminist criticism usually tackles. She points to how disparity in housework can be fruitfully described as male entitlement on female time and labour. Similarly, mansplaining too fits this quite nicely: In particular, I believe that mansplaining typically stems from an unwarranted sense of entitlement on the part of the mansplainer to occupy the conversational position of the knower by default: to be the one who dispenses information, offers corrections, and authoritatively issues explanations. This is objectionable when and partly because he is not so entitled: when others, namely women, happen to know more than he does—and he ought to anticipate this possibility, rather than assuming his own epistemic superiority from the get-go. As someone female on the internet, she picks out a certain kind of male entitlement there very well: There is a certain kind of man who is unable or unwilling to cope with others expressing views that threaten his own sense of what has happened, or ought to happen. Such men cannot abide girls and women, in particular, evincing their own, legitimate sense of epistemic entitlement to state what is happening in the world, or what has to change, going forward. III. Complexity strikes back However, there are all kinds of phenomena that don't fit very easily into her framework, which she still tries to. For example, when talking about trans people, she writes: An important corollary of the dynamic Bettcher identifies is the sense of entitlement, upon taking in someone whose gender presentation is that of a woman, to know her genital arrangements at a glance—even when she is fully clothed—without doubt or ambiguity. The entitlement to know a woman’s reproductive capacities at a glance seems a plausible extension of this—which would imply her obligation not to present herself as a woman, if she is not capable of “giving” cisgender men heteronormatively sanctioned sex and biological children. The need for gender legibility is hardly restricted to men, so I'm not sure if it is really a "plausible extension" that male transphobes are angry because...they want kids? There's also a chapter on how women are not believed by various medical professionals (including female ones) and I'm not really sure how that's a case of male entitlement. After recounting a case of a feminist scholar who says, "I wonder: How could my husband listen to me say what I said [about feeling sexually violated by him]—even once, even timidly—and sleep well that night, much less continue to insist on sleeping with me?", Manne simply says "My answer, of course, is entitlement." Diagnosing a marriage from afar is easy if you're a theorist! I guess this takes me to the heart of why I'm ultimately not a fan of this kind of approach broadly. I have very little *intrinsic* interest in the moral judgements of a middle-class white American professor. Instead of going into the world and delving into the complexity of social dynamics over time or even trying to think through why someone like her holds the beliefs she does, Manne (like any analytic philosopher) is looking for justification for shoring up her worldview. So what she provides as "analysis" is really just her finding ways to convince us that she's correct and that her opponents can be conceptualized away. Eg: Are there too many pro-life women to make abortion an easy story about male entitlement? Ok then just claim that they've just internalised the "moral code" of "white supremacist patriarchy." How did Manne, also a white woman avoid being so hoodwinked? Nevermind that. There's also all the standard liberal talking points - republicans can't be pro-life because they actually favour capital punishment. And even if they support the death penalty only for the guitly, that would be wrong because of racial disparities. All entirely reasonable! Except a total lack of interest in how these beliefs are actually held anyway by so many people, presumably some of whom at least aren't evil idiots. But Manne has access to "the true logic of anti-abortion activism: not preserving life, but controlling girls and women, and enforcing the prevalent expectation that women “give” designated men children." I think this is entirely fine for an activist trying to mobilize, it's at least out-of-place in what's meant to be a scholarly work trying to grapple with a world of people who think differently. Since there's no empirical material she's bringing to already existing coverage, apart from fitting things into her analysis, she tries all kinds of free association. For example, try to follow the argument about why incels' self-reporting should be considered unreliable: The sad truth is that, like many oppressors, incels perceive themselves as being the vulnerable ones. They feel like the true victims, even as they lash out violently against others. And they feel they are in the right, even as they commit the most deplorable acts of wrongdoing. All the more reason, then, that we should be skeptical about incels’ self-reports about occupying a low rung, relative to other men, on an unjust hierarchy of attractiveness. More likely, they are looking for an unjust hierarchy to locate themselves on, thereby vindicating their preexisting feelings of inferiority and aggrieved resentment. Often, we might suspect, there is little to these complaints: they are merely a post hoc rationalization for an extant, and unwarranted, sense of victimhood—of being oppressed or persecuted by people who aren’t in reality wronging, thwarting, or even rejecting them. In particular, the women incels resent for these supposed sins are often just living their own lives and minding their own business. So because they are "looking for" a heirarchy they're unreliable about their status in the hierarchy? Manne also wishes to identify a hierarchy in society, does that make her unreliable? Or consider the insidious work the "we" does in this second paragraph: What explains this apathy, this hostile, pointed indifference? Don’t we regard rape as a heinous, monstrous crime? Yes, in the abstract. Very well then, but in practice, why do we refuse to hold certain perpetrators accountable vis-à-vis certain victims? One explanation that has the virtue of not only parsimony but sheer coherence is that we regard certain men as entitled to take sex from certain women. A white man who is in a relationship with an equally or less privileged woman, or who was once in such a relationship, is often deemed sexually entitled to “have” her. A serious and sustained contextual investigation could reveal particular people whose decisions lead to a particular situation. Instead, living in the universal logical space of philosophy, Manne weakly accuses some inchoate "we" of being responsible. She also asserts that older men are more likely prone to being damaged by #MeToo allegations because of ageism and their loss of value in a capitalist system. Maybe, but it's hardly definite - older people also have more money and connections! So to make this argument anyway based on... how the older Kevin Spacey and Harvey Weinstein got in trouble, while the younger Ed Westwick didn't... seems at best dubious. There's also discussion of American pop culture classics of the Aziz Ansari saga, the Cat Person story, and some plot points of the television show Girls. This strikes me as trivial pop culture obsession instead of a serious study, but that could just be a discplinary divide. Finally, there's the wading into American electoral politics. She admits to being a Warren supporter since apparently "Warren was arguably the most experienced, prepared, poised, and smartest of any of the Democratic candidates." Notice the "arguably," which saves her from actually having to argue that qualities like poise and intelligence are apparently now rankable, as well as how her preferred candidate is conveniently at the top of the list. Support whomever you want, but this below is a pathetic defense of flip-flopping: Similarly, Warren plausibly lost a significant amount of support in some progressive quarters due to her decision, during the death throes of her campaign, to accept super-PAC money. Whether one agrees with this decision or not, it’s at least unclear that, for a would-be Warren supporter, it should have been a deal-breaker. But, again, women are held to gendered double standards, when it comes to both their steadfastness and their purity: any supported lapse on this front tends to be seized on mercilessly. What does "it's at least unclear that... it should have been a deal-breaker" even mean? By what possible metric but idiosyncratic feeling can something like this even be judged? It's still again repeated near the end of section, when she complains about how women "are not entitled to accept money," which is at least deeply dishonest. There's a rehash of the whole Sanders-thinks-a-woman-cant-win saga, except she claims the snake association came because Warren "challenge[d] the epistemic and moral authority of a trusted male figure" in a symmetrical situation, leaving out the salient point that popular perception was that Warren had leaked the comments herself in a cynical ploy to tar Sanders as sexist (as any politician plausibly might). Now maybe Warren didn't actually do that, but that was what people were responding to! While emphasizing people's believing Sanders over Warren because of sexism makes for a nicer story for Manne's thesis, it was just as much the perceived backstabbing of an ally, a somewhat gender-neutral crime, that led to the sudden Warren disapproal on the Left. In addition, others pointed to how Sanders had encouraged Warren to run in 2016, providing a directly relevant reason to believe that Warren had at best misunderstood since Sanders seemed to have thought a woman could have won even 4 years ago! But this episode's partial narration in the book encapsulates what the book is about - a neat framework which fits somewhat clumsily in the real world.

  13. 5 out of 5

    Alan Mills

    More later after I have a chance to process (and am at a real computer), but for now let me assure you, Kate Manne has produced another tour de force that (almost) makes me wish I had continued in with philosophy instead of going to law school! Longer version: White privilege means never having to worry that you are being oppressed BECAUSE of the color of your skin. White is seen as the default, and everyone else is a deviation from the norm. White people are able to ignore skin color, and take f More later after I have a chance to process (and am at a real computer), but for now let me assure you, Kate Manne has produced another tour de force that (almost) makes me wish I had continued in with philosophy instead of going to law school! Longer version: White privilege means never having to worry that you are being oppressed BECAUSE of the color of your skin. White is seen as the default, and everyone else is a deviation from the norm. White people are able to ignore skin color, and take for granted that they will not be judged negatively because of their race. Kate Manne has taken a deep look at male privilege, and comes to similar conclusions. Being male means that one is entitled to various things, merely because you are male, rather than because you have in some way earned that entitlement. In contrast, females must constantly prove that they are entitled to those very same things, and are expected to provide males with various forms of support, merely because they are female. I pause to note that Prof. Manne carefully notes that this binary is too simplistic. That the entitlement really belongs to those perceived as cis males, and that everyone else, including non-binary, trans, and other gender nonconforming people do not share this entitlement. Similarly, she carefully notes that race adds another dimension, which means that Black women are doubly disadvantaged. With that in mind, the focus of this book is male entitlement. Professor Manne examines this hypothesis in several different contexts. She begins with what she terms "himpathy": the tendency of people to sympathize with males, even when they are the ones who have inflicted harm on women. This is often seen in rape cases, where public concern is often focused on the fact that a man's life has been "ruined," while the woman (or even women) who were his victims are often ignored. The fact that the Michigan gymnastics coach was only demonized after dozens of women made similar accusations is contrasted with the scorn shown to some of his first victims--even by their own parents--who were uniformly disbelieved. Other examples include a male entitlement to power. Prof. Mann cites several studies where identical resumes are shown to people--with the only difference the perceived gender of the applicant. Overwhelmingly, the same credentials are viewed as more suitable for positions of power when assigned to a person perceived as male. She uses this as a springboard to examine the difference in the way male and female candidates are treated--which appears to be linked to the prestige and power of the office they are seeking. From heights of public office, Prof. Manne also focuses on the more day-to-day issues of the division of household labor, analyzing in depth the various studies showing that while men do more of the household work than ever before, they continue to lag behind women, and almost never carry the burden of the higher level organizational tasks. For example, men may do cleaning, run errands, do shopping, and wash clothes, but it is almost always the woman who keeps track of the family calendar to make sure that these tasks all get done on time. After 200 pages spent delving into the philosophical underpinnings of male entitlement, Prof. Manne concludes with a short, very personal chapter about becoming the mother of a baby girl. She despairs having to teach her child how to resist these entitlements, in the face of society's deeply ingrained epistemological biases. But she concludes that hope is in fact real, and in itself is a form of resistance. While she does not cite this book (but does cite several of her other works), Prof. Manne's conclusion reminds me very much of Professor Solnit's book, Hope in the Dark. In sum, a book very much worth reading, and (as with her earlier book, Down Girl) is published at exactly the right time.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Brian

    Highly informative collection of essays by philosopher Kate Manne exploring how men's "illegitimate sense of entitlement gives rise to a wide range of misogynistic behavior." She does such a great job explaining so many words in contemporary American lexicon - himpathy, misogyny, gaslighting, mansplaining et cetera - that I have heard (and used) but never understood fully. My favorite chapter was the one in which she explores the concept of women being "electable" and the unconscious bias involv Highly informative collection of essays by philosopher Kate Manne exploring how men's "illegitimate sense of entitlement gives rise to a wide range of misogynistic behavior." She does such a great job explaining so many words in contemporary American lexicon - himpathy, misogyny, gaslighting, mansplaining et cetera - that I have heard (and used) but never understood fully. My favorite chapter was the one in which she explores the concept of women being "electable" and the unconscious bias involved in voting where women are competing against men. She ends the book on a high note with a chapter written to the baby she is expecting - a coda to a better world.

  15. 4 out of 5

    Lou Caltabiano

    Though difficult to read at times, this book is an interesting and deep journey that cuts to the core of "why are men." As a man who has been in therapy working through a lot of the issues detailed in this book, I encountered many moments of self-reflection that reinforced the idea that many of us have a lot of work to do. To any men reading this, start with this: it's ok to receive criticism. It is what you do with the criticism - your feelings about it and your actions afterwards - that really Though difficult to read at times, this book is an interesting and deep journey that cuts to the core of "why are men." As a man who has been in therapy working through a lot of the issues detailed in this book, I encountered many moments of self-reflection that reinforced the idea that many of us have a lot of work to do. To any men reading this, start with this: it's ok to receive criticism. It is what you do with the criticism - your feelings about it and your actions afterwards - that really matter. I wouldn't say that there is anything groundbreaking in this book necessarily, but rather it really aligns with where I am currently and I think it can be a useful tool for others who want to make progress on themselves and for others.

  16. 4 out of 5

    Lynn

    An excellent examination of the role that misogyny/male entitlement play in all aspects of human life including sexual encounters, power, reproductive rights, politics, and relationship dynamics. I did not agree with everything she had today but I found her ideas thought provoking.She covers a wide range of topics including the Me Too Movement, Hilary Clinton's & Elizaabeth Warren's misadventures at the polls, incredibly unjust verdicts in recent sexual assault cases, and how couples struggle ov An excellent examination of the role that misogyny/male entitlement play in all aspects of human life including sexual encounters, power, reproductive rights, politics, and relationship dynamics. I did not agree with everything she had today but I found her ideas thought provoking.She covers a wide range of topics including the Me Too Movement, Hilary Clinton's & Elizaabeth Warren's misadventures at the polls, incredibly unjust verdicts in recent sexual assault cases, and how couples struggle over who does what in the household. A must read and I guarantee spirited dinner conversation.

  17. 4 out of 5

    whitney

    I just finished it last night, and y'all, it is SO GOOD. Read it! The final chapter, in which she lays out her hopes for her baby daughter, what she hopes her daughter will grow to know she is entitled to (and responsible for)...it's everything I want for my own daughter. And even the place where Manne finds herself lost for words is precisely where I find myself lost: How do I teach my daughter that she is entitled to say "no" - to anyone, but especially to men, and empower her to do so, while I just finished it last night, and y'all, it is SO GOOD. Read it! The final chapter, in which she lays out her hopes for her baby daughter, what she hopes her daughter will grow to know she is entitled to (and responsible for)...it's everything I want for my own daughter. And even the place where Manne finds herself lost for words is precisely where I find myself lost: How do I teach my daughter that she is entitled to say "no" - to anyone, but especially to men, and empower her to do so, while also making her aware of the very real risk that comes with saying "no" to someone who feels entitled to you? I don't feel that I can ethically empower her to say "no" without letting her know those risks, but I don't want her to engage with the world from a place of fear, either. The other thing I really liked about the book was all of the footnotes. There are A LOT. Like, the "end" of the book was only 62% of the way through the ebook. It was just really gratifying to see that all of these things I've been trying to write and think my way through these last 3 years or so, just thinking about entitlement and gaslighting and misogyny based on my own experiences, and the things that have become public thanks to #metoo...there are people who've thought deeply about these issues and have theories and research and I don't know, it's just gratifying to know that the things I've thought, and tried to put words to, are seen as "real" by people whose job it is to study them. That's really powerful for me.

  18. 4 out of 5

    Lydia

    I cried at the close. I am not exaggerating when I say Manne's "Down Girl" totally changed my life when I read it a few years ago. Manne has the amazing ability to NAME things--see her coinage of "himpathy." She puts into words things that I know, have known, other women know and have known. Entitled continues her project of naming misogyny and how it operates, and I am so grateful. See also the notes for far-ranging and excellently sourced further reading, some of which I've already found but lot I cried at the close. I am not exaggerating when I say Manne's "Down Girl" totally changed my life when I read it a few years ago. Manne has the amazing ability to NAME things--see her coinage of "himpathy." She puts into words things that I know, have known, other women know and have known. Entitled continues her project of naming misogyny and how it operates, and I am so grateful. See also the notes for far-ranging and excellently sourced further reading, some of which I've already found but lots I haven't.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Ayuko

    Male sexual entitlement hadn't been discussed enough until now and had even been normalized. It is real, prevalent, and deeply ingrained. The book doesn't cover anything new, and I must admit I am quite fed up with the emotional labor and social responsibility that are solely on women's shoulders. When do men start writing about their share of work?

  20. 5 out of 5

    Ryan Mishap

    Clear, concise, deadly explication and take down of misogynistic entitlement and how it operates in society. Essential.

  21. 4 out of 5

    Devyn

    Great exploration of entitlement and misogyny, covering its manifestations in a variety of contexts. It was definitely less dense/academic feeling than Down Girl and should be an easier/more accessible read. I especially think the discussion on sexual ethics (in terms of more than just consent/non-consent) is one that’s needed and found it very well done.

  22. 4 out of 5

    Barbara

    Lots of complicated feelings about this one. First of all, I think this is an important book that will benefit many readers, especially those interested in the problem of misogyny, but who perhaps have not yet had a chance to read a lot of feminist theory. Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women continues the work Manne started in Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny. It does so while being more accessible than this latter, but also less focused. In Down Girl, Manne puts forth an ameliorative analy Lots of complicated feelings about this one. First of all, I think this is an important book that will benefit many readers, especially those interested in the problem of misogyny, but who perhaps have not yet had a chance to read a lot of feminist theory. Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women continues the work Manne started in Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny. It does so while being more accessible than this latter, but also less focused. In Down Girl, Manne puts forth an ameliorative analysis for how we are to understand and define misogyny, moving away from the commonplace description of misogyny as simply "hating women for being women." Manne sees misogyny as something more systemic and less individualistic; she isn't interested in the intentions of those who perpetuate misogyny as much as she is interested in the consequences of misogyny on the lives of women and girls. This allows her not to get stuck in the quagmire that is trying to understand an oppressor's "true feelings" at the expense of the victims's experiences under an oppressive system. According to Manne, as she reiterates in this book too, misogyny is the backlash women face when they "step out of their lane," when they refuse to provide men with the moral goods that men think they are entitled to, or when they move to acquire these same moral goods for themselves. As the title belies, in Entitled Manne looks specifically at the entitlement side of the equation: what do men think they are entitled to and how does that sense of entitlement harm women. I didn't always agree with Manne. While entitlement is definitely part of the problem, I felt that at times she bent the evidence to fit the argument, ignoring other elements at play. I also didn't understand the reason for some of the subdivisions: why talk about the entitlement to sex as separate from the entitlement to consent, when the only consent Manne addresses in this book is consent to sex? Despite my misgivings, I think it is a book worth reading because it articulates the problem of misogyny by tracing the roots of misogyny back to men's entitlement to things like consent, sex, admiration, and even medical care. In doing so, it tackles a number of issues that pertain to women's experiences: from sexual assault, to how women's pain is ignored by the medical community, and how women continue to bear the brunt of domestic work even when married or partnered to self-identified feminist men. It also provides evidence for many of those things we think we know, but have never bothered to look up. I particularly appreciated the book's last chapter where Manne outlines a manifesto for the future, an open letter, in a sense, to her daughter and the kind of person she wishes her daughter to become: one who knows that she is entitled to a lot more than society will probably teach her to feel entitled to, but also a person well aware of her privileges and the duties her privileges will confer upon her. So, definitely pick this up if you are looking for something well-argued and engaging, without being too academic.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Justin Murphy

    I picked up Entitled after reading about it in New York Times. Entitled is direct, informative, and a bit uncomfortable to read as a straight white male. Making it the perfect 3rd installment in my reading series to help understand the political climate of 2020. Manne does a good job using data and evidence to drive awareness around some entrenched gender norms. I learned about incels, was shocked by the statistics on domestic labor, and finally understood mansplaining. Regardless if you agree o I picked up Entitled after reading about it in New York Times. Entitled is direct, informative, and a bit uncomfortable to read as a straight white male. Making it the perfect 3rd installment in my reading series to help understand the political climate of 2020. Manne does a good job using data and evidence to drive awareness around some entrenched gender norms. I learned about incels, was shocked by the statistics on domestic labor, and finally understood mansplaining. Regardless if you agree or not with Manne, because the majority of the text is driven by data and evidence, her writing deserves real intellectual discussion and reflection. And the context I want to frame that discussion in is how do we build the strongest country? To me it is simply about talent. We need the best human talent, regardless of gender or race, actively engaged for us to be successful. In order for us to develop and access that talent pool there needs to be education and opportunity, combined with a review of what the nuclear family looks like in the 21st century. Within that framing Entitled adds a lot of value. I would recommend Entitled to anyone who wants to learn about gender norms. If you pick up the book you must be open minded to hear Manne's view or there is no reason in reading it.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Hillary

    Fast read with solid overviews of many recent events and pieces of American culture, all tied back to the overarching idea of male entitlement and its effects on our world. Even if you don't agree with all of her arguments (I didn't), this shows how many aspects of women's (and men's) lives are impacted by this aspect of our broken world. I wish more men would read books like this, as I can't see much changing until more men understand the many facets of their privilege and can use that knowledg Fast read with solid overviews of many recent events and pieces of American culture, all tied back to the overarching idea of male entitlement and its effects on our world. Even if you don't agree with all of her arguments (I didn't), this shows how many aspects of women's (and men's) lives are impacted by this aspect of our broken world. I wish more men would read books like this, as I can't see much changing until more men understand the many facets of their privilege and can use that knowledge to help women level the playing field and move safely through the world.

  25. 5 out of 5

    Danielle

    I was fortunate enough to win this as a Kindle goodreads giveaway... This is a powerful and timely book and a must read for any woman. I would have given it a 5, but I wish she would have made it more "accessible" at times. I can imagine some people would be turned off by the fact that it is "easily read." She could.have toned down some academic vocabulary in order to reach a broader audience.

  26. 4 out of 5

    Mary

    I enjoyed this, a summary of what women experience on a regular basis, like being interrupted more frequently than men and being judged more harshly than men - nothing here that women won’t recognize, and in many ways coming down to seeing (White) men’s views and stance as the norm, and everything else as being a variation. This has been apparent to me for years, that somehow I am supposed to understand the world view at the same time I hold my view, but that thinking is not to be expected in re I enjoyed this, a summary of what women experience on a regular basis, like being interrupted more frequently than men and being judged more harshly than men - nothing here that women won’t recognize, and in many ways coming down to seeing (White) men’s views and stance as the norm, and everything else as being a variation. This has been apparent to me for years, that somehow I am supposed to understand the world view at the same time I hold my view, but that thinking is not to be expected in reverse. I think two important points come out for me, that 1) a lot of this is truly injurious to women and girls, such as their medical complaints not being taken as seriously, and 2) that my experience gives me some perception of how Black people are badly/mistakenly perceived and taken by the ruling White, largely male, class. The latter point is not made in this book, but is easier to understand in light of having my own second class experience. (Yes, I recognize that my experience has been nowhere near as harsh, but It does give me a peek.) Over the past few months I have been trying to read some things to better understand the whole BLM experience, and this book for me was an extension of that. This book is an easy, short read and I recommend it if the subject is interesting to you.

  27. 5 out of 5

    Weixiang

    During the conversation of my friend's dating life a few years back, I asked about what she thought of people who plan versus those who doesn't plan. "When you're going on a date, a person who plans really cares about you and that they make your life a lot easier." Because at the end of long work shift on a Friday night, nothing means love and support than planning a date night without any of your inquires." Mental energy is important, what's more important in a balance feministic relationship i During the conversation of my friend's dating life a few years back, I asked about what she thought of people who plan versus those who doesn't plan. "When you're going on a date, a person who plans really cares about you and that they make your life a lot easier." Because at the end of long work shift on a Friday night, nothing means love and support than planning a date night without any of your inquires." Mental energy is important, what's more important in a balance feministic relationship is the sharing of mental energy in families and couples. For a mother's choir can't be only around the support of the children and remembering of dates. It shouldn't be but it is, this book shows the entitlements that men have, and has a systemic power over every aspect of everyone's lives. From the lack of proper sampling size for women and men in pharmaceutical research, to the imbalance of housework, and to the the reproductive rights of a women's body. The entire book shows in a concise, systematic manner mapping the gender right's imbalance between men, women, and those who are non-binary.

  28. 4 out of 5

    Jessica

    Written in a somewhat academic manner. Did not bother me, but I note it because it is not always what everyone is looking for.

  29. 5 out of 5

    Connie Hall

    Not so much new information as thoughtfully presented disheartening known material. Very well done.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Barbara (The Bibliophage)

    Originally published on my book blog, TheBibliophage.com. The good news is you only have to wait until Tuesday 8/11 to read Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women from author Kate Manne. There is absolutely no better time to get the run down on male privilege, since it’s loud and proud all over social media and the news. Manne compiles a group of related charges and proves each beyond a reasonable doubt. (Not that I’m a lawyer or a doubter, mind you.) First, she explains the basic concepts of ma Originally published on my book blog, TheBibliophage.com. The good news is you only have to wait until Tuesday 8/11 to read Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women from author Kate Manne. There is absolutely no better time to get the run down on male privilege, since it’s loud and proud all over social media and the news. Manne compiles a group of related charges and proves each beyond a reasonable doubt. (Not that I’m a lawyer or a doubter, mind you.) First, she explains the basic concepts of male privilege, including mansplaining and himpathy. The people impacted by these behaviors and systemic inequities are intersectional—women of color, white, gay, straight, trans. Anyone presenting as a woman. But the men in this position of privilege are overwhelmingly white, cis gender, and straight. Sex and the patriarchy As you can imagine, the next two chapters cover sexual aspects of this privilege. Using the involuntarily celibate or “incel” movement as her entry point, Manne discusses cases where men harm and even kill women who didn’t pay them attention they believe they deserve. From there she moves to cases of rape and domestic sexual abuse. Here she also includes the way cases like are treated by police and courts—in a word, himpathy. But let’s say it’s not a violent episode, what happens when women would prefer not to consent to sex, even within a committed relationship? And yet, due to a variety of factors, we do. Again, the male ego often determines women’s actions. As with all her chapters, Manne illustrates her point with cases you’ve heard of and some less well known. Trusting women to understand their bodies As a woman living with chronic illness and pain, this topic always hits me in the gut. Manne uses sociologist Tressie Cottom McMillan’s essay, “Dying to be Competent” here. I read it earlier this year, so was familiar with the story. And there are so many more. Women are not considered equal partners in their own medical care, especially if they are women of color or LGBTQIA+. And, to be crystal clear, these systemic beliefs come from female health care providers as well as male ones. That’s because the entire system lacks trust in women’s own understanding of their bodies. And from here Manne moves to the recent anti-choice, anti-abortion laws put in place by the conservative right. Again, men with power believe they should limit a woman’s right to bodily autonomy. Rather than repeating other work on the topic, Manne refers us back to entitlement and male privilege as the reason behind this trend. What women know and what we do after work I recently watched an ad for a window cleaning products that illustrates this point perfectly. In the ad, all the climbing on ladders and lugging heavy buckets around is done by a woman. Then she finds this much easier product, attaches it to her garden hose, and presto, her windows are clean. The only two men in the ad are the sales guy—mansplaining about how windows are tough to clean. And the man who cleans one single window and smiles like he built the whole damn house. This is my long story to say that in this chapter Manne makes it clear that women do the bulk of the domestic duties. When they and their male partner both work outside the home, women do an even larger percentage. And men in that situation still feel entitled to “time off” to exercise, hang out with friends, or whatever. Women generally don’t have the same feelings of entitlement. But I bet if you’re female, you already know this. Speaking of mansplaining, Manne reminds us that women are regularly questioned for knowing things. They’re doubted, talked down to, and treated with arrogance from men around them. But what I found most meaningful here was her extended and detailed explanation of gas lighting. Although I’m familiar with the term, I didn’t know everything about its origins. Now I’m clearer on it. Power and the power to change You knew that somewhere in this book would be the discussion of political power for women, right? Manne makes a strong case for male entitlement and how it damages women. So strong that she could almost have left the political implications out. But we can’t ignore this. As nations around the world elect women leaders, the United States still has old, white men at the top of the ticket. And our political races are more divisive than ever. In this chapter, Manne discusses female candidates and the concept of “communality.” This term implies that women are expected to be socially sensitive and demonstrate concern for others. Yet, this isn’t the standard for male candidates. So, we expect female candidates to be both tough politicians and still demonstrate communality. We judge the way they treat staff, even though we laud men who behave badly with theirs. And so on. The electability standards for women are substantially higher because of this double bind. But, Manne ends her book with a hopeful and poignant chapter about become the mother of a daughter. She admits that after writing two books about the patriarchy holding women down, it was hard to feel positive about her daughter’s future. But she finds that hope and shares it with her readers. It’s the perfect end to a troubling but fantastic book. My conclusions It feels like women are swimming in an ocean of male privilege without a life raft. Entitled is that life raft. It is one woman, and all the people who buy the book and read it, saying to women everywhere, “I see you” and “You matter.” As hard as it is to read nine chapters of how women are hurt, Entitled also offers hope. Shining a light on the way women live daily with small and large damages from male privilege is an important step in changing the world. We can teach our daughters and granddaughters better, and make their world a better place to be a woman. Thank you, Kate Manne. Acknowledgements Many thanks to NetGalley, Crown Publishing, and the author for the opportunity to read a digital ARC in exchange for this honest review.

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